| Subject: Re: Big fans of the music VS. 'casual groupies' - Perceptions? |
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Date Posted: 08:46:43 07/01/09 Wed
In reply to:
Industry Chick
's message, "Re: Big fans of the music VS. 'casual groupies' - Perceptions?" on 17:57:34 06/29/09 Mon
>>Just a P.S. -- though nobody is obligated to be
>>backstage for any particular reason (to each her
>>own)--the ones who knew nothing about the music or the
>>band and were just in it for the free food, drugs,
>>drink, etc. have a name in the U.K. which is "liggers"
>>i.e., "freeloaders", or "Rent-A-Crowd".
>>
>>
>>>My theory is there are different types of rockers.
>>>Some of them are what you see is what you get and
>some
>>>of them are putting on a big act and are nothing like
>>>their public persona or the music they play or write.
>>>
>>>Probably the ones who are putting it on are the ones
>>>who feel strained at being perceived as their stage
>>>personality, because they know deep down they are not
>>>that person. They would definitely be more
>comfortable
>>>with somebody who is only interested in them for sex,
>>>that they wouldn't need to put on an act for. It is
>>>also much easier for them to brush off such a woman
>>>afterwards because they both acknowledge she doesn't
>>>have a crush on him, and she will be with the next
>guy
>>>coming along and there's no relationship there, no
>>>strings.
>>>
>>>The ones who are what they seem, well, their first
>>>love is music and they are glad to discuss it with
>>>anybody, and you'll see their faces just light up. It
>>>makes all the crap on the road worthwhile to meet
>>>somebody who gets what you're trying to do. So the
>>>ones who are not just in it for money and getting
>laid
>>>and actually have something to say (a dying breed,
>>>I'll admit) would not mind having fans (especially
>>>pretty ones who are polite) admire them, as long as
>>>they are not climbing the walls or something. They
>>>feel that's who they really are, not a case of
>>>mistaken identity, and they find admiration from a
>>>pretty girl exciting and an ego boost.
>>>
>>>So I don't think it's so much the attitude of the
>>>girl, but the way the rock star perceives himself.
>My
>>>two cents.
>>>
>>>>This isn't a story or question about a particular
>>>>rocker, just more of a question out of my curiosity
>>>>and occasional confusion...
>>>>
>>>>I've been a groupie type for over a decade now, have
>>>>gotten the chance to hang with many bands, and out
>of
>>>>all the stuff those guys gossip about, I'm most
>>>>interested in this... I have heard some very
>>opposing
>>>>views on the differences in rockers' attitudes
>toward
>>>>girls (even very attractive ones) who (1) approach a
>>>>band member enthusiastically, as a BIG FAN of them
>>and
>>>>their music, and (2) those who approach them as
>>>>indifferent, maybe even acting like they don't
>really
>>>>know who they are.
>>>>
>>>>It seems that some (even those who really 'get
>>>>around') are just not into (and sometimes even
>>>>repulsed by) girls who seem really into the music -
>>>>the "big fan" types who'll go right up compliment
>>>>the guy on his amazing [insert musical talent here]
>>>>and ask for an autograph or whatever - regardless of
>>>>how hot she actually is. Most, from what I've
>>>>witnessed, would much rather go for the nonchalant
>>>>"type #2". It's an interesting thing to witness,
>>>>though I've seen and heard things that seriously
>>>>conflict, and I'd like to hear others thoughts or
>>>>stories about i
>
>The first thing I told my husband the second time I
>met him (first time I was with my bf haha) was how
>HUGE of a fan I was of his music- I told him "I've
>been in love with you forever." It worked though here
>we are happily married. I'd say it depends. The guys
>who really love music & not just the lifestyle will be
>turned on by chicks who actually "get" music and not
>just in it for the conquest.
I have to agree with Industry chick.Every musician is different. While I have never been one to go gaga to them over their music...it is quite obvious when they look at me on the side of the stage that I am really truly into their band.
I could never be with a musician who's music I didn't like. There would just be no interest for me. But I don't have to swoon...they still need the thrill of the chase when it comes to the groupies.
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