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Subject: Re: I got a call


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Shari
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Date Posted: 05:44:49 05/05/07 Sat
In reply to: Heather 's message, "Re: I got a call" on 15:30:55 05/04/07 Fri
 I'm sorry it's sounded harsh, Heather. But you've been on this board longer than I have, and the same type of questions keep coming up.

Spencer is still using and still manipulating you. Take control of the situation. Protect the emotional state of your son. Do what is best for him, not his father.

I know you are human, and have feelings that bounce back and forth. But your first and foremost responsibility is your children....not you or your addict. Protect them!

As I've said when it comes to my situation.....I CHOSE to be with and around this person. My boys don't have choices, and it is up to me to make sure they are taken care of and protected.....whether it be from their father or anything else in life.

Spencer is still using and in the user frame of mind. He is dangerous to you and your children. Whether you want to believe that or not. Although you state he has never been violent, that could change in an instant. Are you going to wait until he does show violence? Is the first instance of violence going to be toward you, your children, or someone else?

Being involved with a meth user in any way, shape or form is risky business. Your involvement with him at this point is enabling him. You are divorced. I know the thought about "but he's my son's father." WRONG....first and foremost he is an addict. When the addict is gone then he will be his father. Until then, quit trying to be the one to make the change for Spencer. It has to come from him and it isn't happening!
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Re: I got a callShari06:05:39 05/05/07 Sat
    Re: I got a callHeather14:55:44 05/07/07 Mon

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