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Subject: Addicts mom sent daughter a present


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Shelly
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Date Posted: 23:53:27 12/20/06 Wed
 Well, if you've kept up with my story -when my daughters father started using again his family did an intervention and his mom told me he agreed to go get help. Next time I asked her if he was going into rehab she told me that he had asked her not to discuss him with me so she couldn't (never mind that it was her granddaughter who was asking and curious if her dad was getting help so he could be a daddy again). Long story short -she and I did not agree on her decision to keep her grandchild out of the loop in order to abide by the wishes of her crystal meth addict son. Since then there has been no contact between anyone on his side of the family with my daughter. Today my daughter got a gift certificate from her grandma with a card. The card she wrote to my daughter said "I wish things were different and I could see you. Perhaps the future will bring better times" What the hell does that mean? My daughter is even more confused as that sentence makes it sound as if I am the one keeping them apart. I told my daughter she should write her grandma and thank her for the gift and ask why she and her family can not be a part of her life even though her dad (their son/brother) does not chose to be a part of her life. My daughter said that she is too angry at him and his family to write to her grandma at all. So, I sent her an email asking her what she meant by that and told her that I welcome her and her family to have communication with my daughter absent and outside of her son. I would never keep them from having a relationship with my daughter if thats what they and my daughter were comfortable with. Did I do the "right" thing? Should I let them into my daughters life again being that they are his family and very co-dependent and protective of him?
On another note: I drove by his house tonight and his brand new BMW was in front of his home. I snuck up and took a picture on my phone of his license plate # to use in court in two weeks to prove that he is driving a 2007 BMW yet is not paying child support. I feel empowered that I have this to use against him in court. I realized that this man is driving each day in a car that if sold could pay for child support for 4+years -yet he pays nothing so he can support his lifestyle and his drug addiction.
What is the best way to deal with his mother and her having contact with my daughter when she is unwilling to even tell her grandchild how her dad is doing? I am conflicted with this situation and do not know what is best for my daughter in this situation. Any advise is welcome. Thanks! :)
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