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Subject: Re: I feel so down

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Kelly2

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Date Posted: 23:53:29 08/22/06 Tue
In reply to: Heather 's message, "I feel so down" on 11:00:13 08/18/06 Fri

Hi Heather and everyone
I am doing all right. my wife is still clean but I will say this. Things have never really been the same as far as the relationship goes. (I know. who wants the "same" when the same was using or leading up to using?) Things are peaceful, she stays home and sleeps at night (early) So that is way better than the chaos that I lived in.
I guess I am saying all of this Heather because even if he did change and clean up (which I don't think he has) It is still an uphill battle?
As far as him keeping on calling even though you tell him not too goes; he is calling because HE DOESN'T BELIEVE YOU WHEN YOU TELL HIM NOT TO! something you are doing or saying is telling him that you still want him. Plus the things he says make me think that he is still using. And like someone said. If he is using alcohol he is still using. Alcohol is a drug and an addict of any kind needs to stay away from any drug. Period. I know because I am an addict. (Although I have 21 years of sobriety)
Hula gave you great advice and it sounds like you are learning a lot. I know it still hurts you a lot and that is natural. I am sorry to hear that. Meth sucks big time and there is no getting around it. But like someone said it is probably over the end of something rather than losing something that no longer is. Does that make sense? The Spencer that you want doesn't exist.
Try and keep yourself busy and work towards goals that you have. (I am sure those kids keep you plenty busy but you need to do some things for you) The only thing that keeps me sane is God and my work. It is really true that how we feel about ourselves effects all of our relationships.
Anyway God bless you Heather and everyone else on this board. I will try to get back a little more often but I kind of had to get away for a while. It wasn't a conscious decision but I just find myself gravitating to other things. It just makes me be more in awe of people like Doug, and Giving Back, and Been There. and Hulalea, and all the others who kept/keep helping other people. What saints they are! This board brought me through the pits of hell in my life and I am forever indebted.

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: I feel so down	Heather	08:59:15 08/23/06 Wed
Re: I feel so down -- Kelly2, 11:20:35 08/23/06 Wed Re: I feel so down -- Heather, 13:47:49 08/23/06 Wed Re: I feel so down -- Shelly, 21:08:50 08/25/06 Fri