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Subject: There is hope!


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TR's mom
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Date Posted: 22:32:40 09/03/06 Sun
 I found this forum several months ago. I have been watching my son (now 20) fight meth addiction for 4 years. He went to at least 5 programs, finished some, quit others, got kicked out etc... I was losing hope. When he was in the last one I told him it was the end. I would always love him and support him in any effort to get clean and turn his life around. But I would no longer be party to his abuse of himself and others if he chose to continue using.
He quit the treatment center and wanted to come home. I told him no. It was so hard and I cried every night knowing that he was homeless. He lived on "friends" couches and in seedy motels for a while. He even spent a few nights sleeping in cars. He called me often and asked to come home. I held fast. Finally after a couple of months,he told me he was ready to try to change his life. It was now his choice and not mine. He promised me he had been clean and was going to do his best to stay clean. He had gotten a job. He wanted to know under what conditions he could come home. The conditions were many: NO drug use, NO old "friends" calling or coming over, keep your job, respect others in the home and their things, do your share, etc. AND if you are really serious about changing your life, go back to school and learn a trade or something that will advance your life. I gave him the summer to think about what he wanted to do but told him he must enroll in school in the fall or move out. Well, he started at a local technical college last week and his pride in making this great step is obvious. He even wears a school cap which he never would have been caught dead in when he was using. He is staying clean and has only 2 friends he feels he can be around. He has kept his job for 6 months now (the longest stretch ever). And he is even trying to quit smoking cigarettes with the help of a patch.
Now I know "an addict is always an addict" and I am aware that relapse is always a possibility. But I have to tell you that for the first time in years I feel real hope that he will beat the odds. I still read this forum on occasion and cry for the pain I know you all are still feeling. A pain that I know all to well. I pray for you and the addicts in your lives. And I hope that you will pray for me and my son as well. Be strong. Try to take care of yourself. You are not alone. Thanks for being there for me.
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Re: There is hope!susan08:36:57 09/04/06 Mon
Re: There is hope!Debbie S17:46:32 09/04/06 Mon
Re: There is hope! SuesanDebbie S11:31:35 09/06/06 Wed

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