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Subject: Shelly- I know how you are feeling


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Heather
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Date Posted: 14:16:01 07/24/06 Mon
In reply to: Shelly 's message, "I lost it and severed all ties today" on 18:24:09 07/19/06 Wed
 You are going to be ok. Just remember it is him not you that is insane. I know how you feel. I was there and almost slipped back there but am catching myself. I know it is not me. I know that I have done nothing wrong.
We keep trying for them and it is not what we should be doing.
My ex is not using meth any longer, but took up drinking instead. We arranged him to pick up my son Sunday at 9am, he didn't show or didn't call. I called him three times and he finally called at 10:30 to say he was on his way. He was out drinking at a club all night and didn't wake up on time. What kind of father does that to his son? A son he swears he wants a relationship with. A son he said he would do anything for. A son he said is his priority. YA RIGHT. My sister told me today that she is sick of hearing about it. She said I was trying to control what he does. She doesn't really understand that he is manipulative and got me to believe him again. I believe he is not using but I do not believe he has much interest in his son. If he did he would of spent more time with him. Time that my son asked for personally. Instead, Friday night, Saturday night and last night he was out drinking at a club that he said he was working at. ANd Friday night he calls me at 3am to talk and he was driving drunk. And last night he calls at 2am to tell me he didn't get my text message. So he traded one thing for another and asked me what the fuck my problem was. So again, my bad, I have to step away cause I will not go down that road. I am not the one with the problems, at least not his problems. We all have issues but its up to us how we deal with the and how we let it affect us. I haven't done so well lately, but that is all changing right now. My sister hurt my feelings today when she talked to me, but I know she is right. I didn't feel as if I was trying to control him but trying to make sure he didn't disrespect my son and if I feel drinking is getting in the way _ i felt I had the right to say something. One thing hasn't changed - he still isn't interested in being a dad.
I am sorry that I let myself down again and especially my little boy.
So he isn't using anymore - but he has picked up drinking - what does that tell you? Is my son safe? What now? What should I do now? Cause I cannot deal with this forever in my life. There has to be a point where it all comes together or just ceases. HELP!
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Re: Shelly- I know how you are feelingShelly18:30:21 07/24/06 Mon

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