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Subject: I lost it and severed all ties today


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Shelly
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Date Posted: 18:24:09 07/19/06 Wed
 Well, I hit my breaking point today when ex shut off our daughters cell phone after he said he wasn't (said she used too many minutes and can't afford it -while he drives a brand new BMW 7 series and owns 2 homes). He wrote me that her cell phone is "a priviledge and not a right and she has abused her priviledge so she is disconnected". I replied "Being a daddy is a priviledge, not a right and you have abused your priviledge and are getting disconnected to your parental rights"). I let it get to me too much and ended up showing up on his doorstep at 10am. He was sleeping (go figure) and wouldn't let me in until I screamed at the top of my lungs that if he didn't all his neighbors would hear what I had to say to him (he lives in a very nice neighborhood). He opened the door. I was a whirlwind grabbing all of my daughters stuff she had left at his house and told him I am DONE -he needs help and until he gets help, does drug testing, and can be a stable and consistant parent then he is not to ever have contact with us again. I yelled and screamed while grabbing her stuff and told him to not bother calling b/c we are changing our #'s. As I left I screamed "I guess the drugs are more important than your child". He did not say a word through all of this.
I came home and e-mailed him this letter:
Being a daddy is a priveldge not a right. You have been warned numerous times and you continue to abuse the privledge. Your disconntected from parenting.

Contact me via email once you have gotten help, will take a drug tests, and can be a stable and consistant father to your daughter - if it's not too late by that time as Amanda already has disconnected from you once again.

Please do not reply to this message as I have nothing left to say to you. I am being fair in letting you know that I am telling Amanda about your drug use to crystal meth. She needs to know your disappearance and not wanting to spend time with her is not due to anything she has done or that she is unlovable. I can't allow her to hurt over you any longer!

I love you and it breaks my heart how you have made the decision to abandon those that love you without any remorse. I pray you get the help you need and it's not too late to reconnect with those of us that have always loved you even though you continue to hurt us. We can't ride on your roller coaster life any longer.

As stressful as the day was -I feel better about this and feel healthy about my decision!! I am meeting with a family counseler tomorrow to discuss how to tell my daughter about her dads drug use. When she found out her phone was disconnected today she said that she hates him. I told her that we were going to have a discussion about why he does the things he does this weekend and her response was "What? He's selfish. That pretty much sums it up."
Sorry so long -I just had to get this off of my chest. My family and friends are sick of hearing this drama about him and you all on this site are the only one's that truly understand how painful and frustrating and angry this situation is!
Thanks for reading!! :)
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Re: I lost it and severed all ties todayShelly19:35:20 07/19/06 Wed
Shelly- I know how you are feelingHeather14:16:01 07/24/06 Mon

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