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Subject: I told my daughter about her dad's drug addiction!

Author:
Shelly

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Date Posted: 18:41:19 07/24/06 Mon

I went to talk to a family counseler last week to discuss how to go about telling my daughter about her dad's drug addiction. I wanted her to finally understand why he comes in and is great daddy and then disappears as I don't want her to ever think it is something she has done or she is unlovable. Funny thing is -this counseler told me absolutely tell her and more than likely she will be fine with it. Our situation is a bit different since my daughter just met her dad a few years back and they have just started to spend time together when we moved here two years ago. The counseler said that the issues will be harder for me than her b/c I love this man. Long story short -he 100% agreed that my 12 yr old needs to know and understand and hopefully it will also teach her how drugs can destroy people since she is coming upon her teenage yrs.
I sat down with her and told her last night. She took it a lot better than I expected. She simply listened and then started asking "Oh, so is that why he....?" "Oh, so when he...." etc. I told her that if she wants to contact im that I understand and will not keep her from that, but will not allow her to go anywhere with him until I know he is drug free. She shook her head and said that she does not want to contact him and has no desire to. I told her if that changes just let me know. We hugged and said "I love yous" and I told her that I will always be here for her and it's better to have one great loving consistant involved parent that two where it is unhealthy.
I can't pretend to know what went on in her little head after our conversation, but it seemed to be okay and I felt a ton better just being honest with her.
Now -I have to figure out how to let go of my hurt and anger and concern to move on! I'm working on it -one day at a time! :)

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: I told my daughter about her dad's drug addiction!	Heather	08:58:19 07/25/06 Tue

Re: I told my daughter about her dad's drug addiction!	Hulalea	13:04:15 07/25/06 Tue

Re: I told my daughter about her dad's drug addiction!	Kim	20:40:27 07/25/06 Tue
Re: I told my daughter about her dad's drug addiction! -- Heather, 09:10:37 07/26/06 Wed