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Subject: My daughters father


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Shelly
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Date Posted: 21:12:20 07/17/06 Mon
 I will try to make a very long story short. My daughters father entered her life just 2 yrs ago. It's been an uphill battle of the wills between the two of them. 6 months ago the father told us he had been using meth for the past yr. and wanted help. He was parinoid and sleep deprived but refused to go to rehab b/c he said he could quit on his own. I was with him through his withdrawls that included switching from intense anger to intense sobbing. He quit and became a wonderful man and loving father. My daughter began spending 2 nights a week with him as well as the 3 of us would do things like dinners, Disneyland, etc. Things were great and I was so proud of him and happy to finally have a 2nd parent to help. Well -I started noticing shifts in his personality and not as happy as he was. I asked, but he always said he was fine. It has now been over a month since he last had our daughter stay with him (when the schedule was 2x a week and was going great). I can only assume he is using again. I contacted his mom who told me that she hasn't seen or heard from him in 2 months and he doesn't return her emails. He contacted me today - to say our daughter went over her minutes in cell phone and he was shutting her phone off. He agreed to keep it on when I said I would pay for it (nevermind that he currently owes me over $600 in child support). Through our text messages he wrote "What's the deal, you seem angry"
Does he really not realize what he is doing? I am so frustrated by him!
What do I tell my daughter? How do I explain his dissappearance yet again? She has commented a few times how he has not contacted her in weeks.
What can I do that isn't through an attorney and costs money to require he be drug tested before he can ever spend time with her again? I know it's only a matter of time b4 he will contact me and demand to see her (we have already been through this a few times in the past year and I always give in believing he is well and sober). I am ready to give up on him and let him hit rock bottom so he gets help. How can I keep him from stopping by our house when she's at home and I am at work for the summer? And - - when will this maddness stop? How darn long before he loses everything will he wake up and get help? I am frustrated, scared for him, scared for my daugher, sad for my daughter having such a screwed up dad, and I am soooo mad he has put me in this situation and even more angry that he is treating his daughter like this!!
Sorry -I guess I just had to vent somewhere safe!!
Thanks!
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Re: My daughters fatherHeather14:54:11 07/18/06 Tue

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