Thats kewl James - crushes can be overwhelming and often turn out to not reflect what one is truly feeling

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Subject: Thats kewl James - crushes can be overwhelming and often turn out to not reflect what one is truly feeling - sounds like now

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Date Posted: Tuesday, May 20 2003, 0:03:10 GMT ( - 8 )
In reply to: <:) duck/ed 's message, "Well I know your Dutch, yet there is something about that statement which seems sooooo English - not American English I mean British English - as in reserved and aloof - Strange that two simple words and I pictured an English Lady walking into a situation (one of her teenage offspring engaged with members of both sexes in a huge orgy ) and the only crack in her gentrified facade is the slight wavering in her voice as she says "Oh dear,..."" on Monday, May 19 2003, 12:44:43 GMT ( - 8 )

you have a chance to find out what potential exists between you two - it may be just lust (hopefully mutual) it may be just friendship or friendship and lust or perhaps there is something truly special - and Love will blossom -

At least now it seems that you will be able to find out with your own self-esteem and confidence at an approrpiate level.

But don't get to involved in the games James. When you do things or start thinking about how you are going to act (I think I'll be aloof and avoid eye contact because he craves attention and if I don't give it to him then he will wonder why and perhaps do the ppursueing to find out) etc etc etc

These are all games that people play - perhaps aptly described as the human mating dance - most are not condusive to developing a meaningful relationship based on Love, mutual respect and trust. Better to be open, honest and if the chance occurs to just kick back with the guy and talk - why not just be honest with what your feeling - perhaps admitting why you were acting the way you were previously and see how he reacts and what he reveals - Sure there is a degree of vulnerability there if you do that it's ultimately part of the equation - The only reason not to do that is because you fear his response will not be what you want it to be - well better now then wasting allot of time on something that can't be - but then again with an honest approach he may just open up and indicate feelings that your hoping are there.

Whatever you do thats up to you - my advice is be open, be honest, and COMMUNICATE - and try to avoid the games - some are so subtle that we don't even realize we are playing them when we are!

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