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Joan
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Date Posted: 23:08:51 09/10/07 Mon
In reply to:
growing
's message, "abortion" on 08:06:20 08/26/07 Sun
I am also post abortive. My abortion happened while I was in my teens, but I managed to repress the thought of it for 33 years. All of those years I went through the emotions that you are describing, but I had so thoroughly repressed my abortion that I didn't know why I was a mess.
When the "veil came down", I was in a "safe" place to face it. Even though, the realization was devastating. I read all I could read about the after affects of abortion and the pieces of the puzzle came together.
Your beloved's first feelings about abortion were correct,
he feels awful, not only because of his lost fatherhood, but because he listened to the lies of his so called friends who told him that the decision was yours alone.
A woman who has had an abortion in the past, feels an insidious compulsion to have a repeated abortion. She will do this because she believes she is not worthy to become a mother, "after what she has done". So, she will set herself up.
In most cases, the couple who has had an abortion will break up. But in your case, I believe that your relationship has a very good chance. The fact that you have written to this board and expressed your feelings, which ar VERY REAL and AUTHENTIC, indicates your desire to
know the truth, even though a huge part of you is still fighting it. Your beloved will face the truth with you, I believe. It is important that you face the truth about abortion, what it is, what it has done to your child and to each of you and to your relationship. You have all experienced a terrible loss. But once you realize that, healing is possible. I pray with all of my heart that you and your beloved will embark on the healing journey. It is a counter-cultural journey, but you have already learned that the perfectionistic "gotta have it all together" culture that we have created is a false promise.
The good news is that objective truth exists and gives us real hope. The courage to face this truth, which respects the dignity of life in all of its ages and strengths and weaknesses, is the first step. The good news is that once we embark on this journey, which is never ending, because Truth is infinite, we know that we are seeking the right track, and that track is not going to be pulled out from under our feet. Your suffering is very real and the suffering of your beloved is very real. Your relationship has suffered. I am praying with all of my heart that you will find healing together, that you will find the Truth that will set you free, and help you continue living your lives consecrated in truth, which is an ongoing journey through all of eternity, where you will meet your precious little ones again.
Sincerely,
Joan
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