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Date Posted: 12:40:46 12/15/05 Thu
My sister had an abortion on Tuesday, December 13, 05.....She is 31, she had her first child when she was 16, he is now 15..she has been with her boyfriend now for 3 months. They were a couple 17 years ago, and just found each other 3 and a half months ago....We all thought it was fate, her finding him and all....She and her son quickly moved in with him and his 3 kids and he had made it very clear that he did not want anymore kids..Hes 35...So she was having some medical problems to begin with and she was waiting to see a fertility specialist, she went to the appointment but the boyfriend must not of known what type of appiontment she was going to....See she has wanted a baby for the past 10 or so years, and has tryed for all of them, with no luck.....Well turns out she got pregnant the first few times her and her new boyfriend slept together, how often does that happen.....Anyway, she went for an ultra sound but didnt think anything of it, she never though that she would be preg after trying for so long, but there it was, 8 weeks, 3days a heart beat....She went home and told him and he freaked, there was no way that he wanted this baby, and there was no changing his mind...Now both our mother and me know she wanted it, but the fear of him breaking up and being an a jerk for the rest of her life held more importance over her decision to abort. He had three weeks to think it over and still to the day it was to be done, he still didnt want it..And he wasnt willing ot take the time off work to sit by her side while their baby was taken. I did how ever site by her side while the abortion was done, and cant stop thinking about it...Im so mad that she didnt make him go, but im glad i could be there when she needed some one.....Every night since, i cant help to remeber what i heard in that room...I think it wil haunt me for the rest of my life, and my sister is in total and complete denial....To top it off she wants me to go to their house for christmas, and ive said id go, but im not sure if i will....I not one to hold grudges, but this one will take along time.....Can anyone tell me if they are the secondary victom....Does anyone feel the way i do, no one to talk to, and feel just as hurt as the mother? sorry to ramble but i have to get my feelings down..thanks for listening...