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Date Posted: 23:27:51 06/27/06 Tue
I'm sorry for what you're experiencing, the emotional and even physical part.
I myself was going to have a medical abortion with pills, but I was convinced by the staff at the clinic to just have a surgical one it was "faster". I'd feel just as awful either way for what I've done.
I do understand.
I told noone about my abortion either. Not even my best friends.
I eventually mentioned I was pregant, but lied and said I had a miscarriage 'cause I was ashamed and shared of being judged. I was and still is hard to live hiding or holding in the pain and guilt of having an abortion.
The only person who knew of the abortion was my boyfriend.
I became and still am so needy of him. But I still feel and felt alone. and beyond sad.
I beleived I made the choice or decision to have an abortion for the same reasons. I was not ready or able to provide, I had nothing to offer a baby, nothing but love.
but love won't pay off my car, or rent, or hopsitl bills, or buy diapers, or milk. so I felt I made a better choice, for me and my boyfriend (who wasn't ready and would've resented us I believed) and my baby that I couildn't offer what it desereved. So I do understand.
and if you are truelly sorry, I know your baby will forgive you. and God (not sure how you feel about God, but it's what I believe) and you will take time to heal and forgive yourself.
I know you loved your baby, as I loved my baby too.
You will be okay.