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Subject: Re: lost Author: ARP [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 21:43:21 12/11/06 Mon In reply to: DRM 's message, "lost" on 03:45:47 12/11/06 Mon I am so sorry for your loss. You will feel great sadness for the next few weeks because your loss is so recent. If possible search out a support group for your grief. It is important that your grieve this loss which will take time. Grieving an abortion is harder than most losses because of the shame and stigma we feel. Also, most people do not understand the great loss that goes along with an abortion. You will not have people coming up to you saying "I am so sorry, what can I do to help" and many times that is what we need. Since this help is not always available you must seek out the support you need on your own. Tommorow, December 12, will be fourteen years since my abortion and it has taken me many years to move forward and forgive myself. I do not recall it everyday but many days I do remember. Find a speical way to remember your children and with faith and time you will be able to cherish the life you have. I will keep you in my prays. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: lost Author: Kris [Edit] Date Posted: 21:41:48 12/16/06 Sat Dear DRM, It's important that you allow yourself to grieve - and there is NOT a time limit on grieving - there are stages to grief, but they also don't fall in any certain order. There can be denial, anger, bargaining, depression and then acceptance. It's important that all stages are dealt with in a healthy way and that you find healing for your grief. Here is a good web site: http://home.att.net/~velvet-hammer/grief.html Another really good site for you to visit is: http://www.safehavenministries.com/ I would also like to encourage you to look up a CareNet center near you and ask about post-abortion counseling that many of them offer - the counseling is always FREE - and it can be extremely helpful. You can look up a center near you at this website: http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html Please do pursue the help you need - you and your children deserve it. Hugs, Kris