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Subject: Confused

Author:
Laura

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Date Posted: 14:34:19 02/06/07 Tue

I had my abortion Jan. 31, 2007, not quite a week yet and while 98% of me feels like I made the right choice that small 2% is dying inside.

My husband and I have been married 10 months and we have a good relationship. We are both college graduates and I'm currently getting my master's degree. He has a good job but we still live mostly paycheck to paycheck like other young couples.

I know that we could have NEVER really afforded to have this baby but it is still so hard. Part of me feels so guilty becuase I know that adoption is always an option as I myself was adopted. I feel so guilty becuase I have done this and I think it has started to tear up my marriage. I have no idea what to do and no one else to go to for advice. My parents would certainly be upset with me and I just don't feel comfortable telling my minister something like this despite the fact that he is a trained councelor.

Any suggestions on what to do to help this pain lessen?

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[> Subject: Re: Confused

Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 08:07:21 02/09/07 Fri

Dear Laura,

I am sorry for your loss, and sorry for your pain. It is a natural repsonse to what you have gone through - so please understand it is totally normal.

It is really important that you deal with your pain, and not bury it or put off the grief from your loss. Even though this is recent, it is important to work through the emotions you are experiencing.

You can do a few things - it's important that you understand "Post Abortion Stress" - you can google that and research the results. You can also contact a Care Net Center - look one up near you at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html

Many of them offer FREE post abortion counseling or can direct you someone who does in your area.

Your life and your marriage depend upon you finding healing from this.

There's also:

www.safehavenministries.com

You can check them out and take a look at their boards.

I hope that helps, don't put it off Laura - that's too easy to do and very damaging to all.

Hugs, Kris