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Subject: Re: Lost-Can't hold on

Author:
Kris

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Date Posted: 09:42:59 11/25/07 Sun
In reply to: Kenny 's message, "Lost-Can't hold on" on 15:34:20 11/24/07 Sat

Dear Kenny,

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's really important that you are searching for healing & I'm so glad you posted here.

Please keep working through the hard times and don't get stuck in the misery of it. We all need to grieve loss - it's one thing our society is very poor at doing. You need to allow yourself to grieve in healthy ways. Write down your feelings and get them out, cry and let yoruself be angry,feel guilty, etc. Then you must find the way to heal those wounds.

Getting stuck in any of them can be very damaging to you and others around you.

Please look up a Pregnancy Center near you at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html

They offer post abortion counseling (all free) and they may be able to direct you to a mens group for it.

There is also this site:

http://www.safehavenministries.com/

They have many message boards and it would be really good for you to see that you aren't the only guy going through this sort of thing.

Finally, please understand that God loves you and wil forgive you and wants to heal you. There is no pit so deep, that HE is not deeper still (Corrie TenBoom said that). God wants to make you whole and healthy and help you through this.

Hang in there,

Kris

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[> Subject: Re: Lost-Can't hold on

Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 00:14:58 11/29/07 Thu

Kenny,

I'm sorry about this whole thing. Kris gave you some good links.

Examine each of the things you did that led to this event and seek God's forgiveness and healing. He will give it to you. He doesn't want you to harm yourself, and He's not ready to take you Home. He has a purpose for your life.

It is normal to hate the person who does something like this to you. Most relationships are destroyed by abortion. I have no idea what got into her, but it sounds really bizarre. It doesn't sound normal to me. She may well be hurting, but you are in no position to help her at this time. Concentrate first on restoring your relationship with God.

You were that baby's father, and it is natural for you to want to protect him or her. I don't find your reaction surprising. I am gratified that you haven't suppressed how you feel, because your openness will lead to healing and forgiveness.

Look for a woman who is worthy of you, and make a commitment to her before starting a family. Cherish your wife and your children. God will redeem the situation for you.

Remember how God forgave David and Paul for their egregious sins. Jesus died for ALL your sins, including the ones that led up to this. Accept His forgiveness, and then His word, and forgive yourself.

We will be praying for you. Please keep in touch and let us know what happens.

Take care,
Pat