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Subject: reflecting on the past

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Jane

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Date Posted: 20:06:36 02/12/08 Tue

I was 16 when I got pregnant. I was a good kid, athlete, and student. I was the "good" one in my family. There were no words to describe the fear I felt when I found out. I blocked it out of my mind, hoping it would go away. I was so scared and confused. My bf went with me. I never told a soul. Over the years, a few people found out (a friend of his, a friend of mine). I never told my mother. I am now 25 years old and looking back at the past. I weep for the younger me. I beat myself up for even getting myself into that situation of having sex.After the abortion, I vowed to never have sex again. I beat myself up even more for continuing to have sex over the years. Why, didn't I abstain after that experience? I was able to block it out of my mind for a couple years. The memory came back to me when I was 19 , and again now at 25. I asked for God's forgiveness when I was 16, and I know he loves me and forgives me. I just can't get over how I continued to date and have sex. I did go through a 2 year period of abstinence in my early 20's. I also wonder if I should tell my mother. Our relationship is SO much better now than it was when I was a teenager. I just can't imagine hurting her and disappointing her. I've graduated college, have a career, and have done much to make her proud. I just feel like a fraud when she talks about how proud of me she is.

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[> Subject: Re: reflecting on the past

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Kris
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Date Posted: 07:10:06 02/14/08 Thu

Dear Jane,

I am sorry for your loss and for what you are going through. Before you talk to your mom, you should go into some post-abortion counseling and work to understand what you are really feeling. Also, having the right "tools" to speak with her about it all would be an important part of talking to her openly & honestly.

Many Pregnancy Centers offer FREE post abortion counseling. You can look one up near you at this site:

http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html

This is also another good page of resources you can take your time to look at:

http://www.inourmidst.com./abortion_links.htm

I'm so glad you know that God forgives you, He will also forgive the other behvior since that time. We do fight our battles on this earth - but keep up the good fight Jane.

Hugs,
Kris