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Subject: Re: Ashamed...too many abortions.

Author:
Kris

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Date Posted: 20:47:52 10/15/06 Sun
In reply to: Marie 's message, "Ashamed...too many abortions." on 18:21:53 10/13/06 Fri

Dear Marie,

There are some good web sites to check out -

www.safehavenminitries.com

there is also -

www.optionline.org

at that one, you can look up a place near you and call and see if they offer post-abortion counseling. I have friends that have gone through their program and found it *very* helpful in dealing with the hard aspects of abortion.

I agree with DianeCheryl, that you are not alone and there are many women out there that have had abortions and go through difficulty with it all. I do think that at some point, you do need to come clean with your wonderful man. I just also have a friend that has NEVER told her husband about an abortion she had before she met him, and she has suffered so in keeping that from him. Now that they've been married so long, she feels it would be an even worse betrayal to say it now. But I'm not an expert by any means, and I do not know you nor your wonderful man. You do need his support, especially when you're going through a rough time. I just believe that bottling things up only makes them come out in worse ways later on down the road, and that's neither healthy for you or the ones you love around you. You may want to seek some professional guidance in telling him and go it that way.

I do think no matter what you do, it is important that you find a way to heal. Many people find that healing in a spiritual way and I would certainly testify to that being a good route.

Please remember, you are NOT alone and there are many in your shoes and there is help available, I'm glad you are reaching out - just take our hands and hang on!!!

Hugs, Kris

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Re: Ashamed...too many abortions.

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Marie (Ready to start healing...)
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Date Posted: 18:54:48 10/16/06 Mon

Well, thank you for the advice. And I agree that I need to figure out how to tell him, not just for him but so that I don't feel guilty all of the time. Just thinking about telling him makes me so afraid, even though I know he'll accept it. I'm going to accept the post-abortion care package that Cheryl has so generously offered. And I think that I do need to talk to a professional about dealing with my guilt, which is now like anxiety. I'm not a very spiritual person so I'm apprehensive about many of the post-abortion services. Really, I'm just apprehensive about anything that might make me look deeper into myself :) Thanks for the websites...

By the way, for anyone else who may read this: It took me sooo long to finally reach for help, and even though I'm alone in front of a computer, these interactions have given me a start. I'm grateful that this website was here for me, and that I don't feel judged.

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Re: Ashamed...too many abortions.

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Vee
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Date Posted: 14:27:47 10/31/06 Tue

Hi Marie! I can relate to your feelings as well, as I have also had 3 abortions in the past...My first was when I was 15 and was not in a healthy relationship (lived with my boyfriends drunk family), then again when I was 16 with a different guy, and the last (and the one that hurt the most) was when I was around 24. The last was when my youngest child was only about a year old, and my husband and I decided not to keep it. Men can be really supportive when you give them a chance to be a part of everything. I have spent way too much time dwelling on what might have been with my pregnancies, and yes it is embarrassing to admit that i have been pregnant 5 times but only have 2 children, and never had a miscarriage...But, i have recently had a total hysterectomy (i am only 31) to try to help my endometriosis, and found out yesterday that i also had adenomyosis as well. Sometimes i think that God is punishing me for my TA's by giving me major health problems, but then i give my head a shake and try to get beyond my past and build a good life with my husband and children. I guess what took me so long to say LOL, is that there IS light at the end of the tunnel, and you may never be totally at peace with your choices (i am not, yet), but we still all have to move on with life! Take Care of you first and foremost, thats very important!!

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Author: Diane Cheryl [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 21:32:36 11/04/06 Sat Hi Vee, I hope that I can help you in some way. Please email me and I can send you a post abortion healing packet. Let me hear from you soon. Sincerely, Diane Cheryl