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Will it go away?

Author:
Geena

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Date Posted: 01:11:26 11/29/06 Wed

I was 17 when i fell pregnant to my boyfriend of nearly a year. When i took the test i didnt do it correctly so it came up negitive first, i went back into the bathroom tp throw it away after telling my best friend it was negitive when i discovered it had two lines showing i was pregnant. I didnt know what to do i was only 17 and didnt really understand what was happening.

Later when my boyfriend came home from work i told him, the first thing to come out of his mouth was "we'll go to Christchurch next weekend". Christchurch is one of the only cities in NZ that has a abortion clinic so i was extremly hurt when he said that, he didnt even ask what i wanted or how i felt.

I went to the doctor and got a blood test, he rang back that day to confirm i was pregnant and then proceeded tpo congratulat me. I didnt know what to say so i hung up on him. I had a scan and the doctor showed me her (i think it was a girl) heartbeat and told me it only started a few days before the scan, i recorded it on my cellphone and watch it sometimes, just the flickering of a tiny heartbeat.

My mum was away at a confrence in Auckland for work by the time i decided to have the abortion, i felt pushed into it by my boyfriend(i know now that he was scared too) what didnt help was that my aunty is the abortion councelor for my city, so i had to arrange it all with her receptionist while she was on holiday. It was a monday when we drove 6 hours to chch(christchurch) and i was booked to have the abortion the following day. I usually get car sick if im not driving but i was so numb the whole way that i didnt feel anything at all.

The nurses were nice to me and the procedure didnt hurt at all, i didnt bleed much afterwards and resumed a healthy sex life with my partner but i cant get over what i did, 6 days ago it was the 1 year anniversary of my abortion and i feel more sad than ever. None of my friends really understand how i feel but i feel like im dying inside, screaming for help but no-one can hear me or help me. Will the pain ever go away? I sometimes wish that the condom will break so i can be pregnant again. I really want to go back in time and stop myself. Will the pain ever lessen? Will i ever feel whole again? I just wish someone would help me, understand how i feel. I just want myh precious baby back, i want to hold her, love her. She was my own little love and i let them kill her, i was the person she relied on.

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[> Subject: Re: Will it go away?

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Kris
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Date Posted: 10:37:53 11/29/06 Wed

Dear Geena,

I am sorry for the pain you are going through. Yes, it will lessen in time, but you have to work through all the emotions and find a way to heal. In the US, there are Care Net centers that offer free pos-abortion counseling. I do not know if there are simialr places in the UK, I would imagine there are though. If you look up "Abortion Alternatives" in the phone book, and call, tell them you were looking for a Post Abortion counseling class and perhaps that will work. I think it would be very healing and helpful for you. Diane Cheryl is the board Admin. here and I know she offers Post Abortion packets - that's another thing that could help. You also should visit this site:

www.safehavenministries.com

& this one

http://afterabortion.com/

The important thing is for you to sek out and find the healing you need. Do not bury your feelings or try to hide them, that just comes back to haunt you and all your future relationships.

I also know that God can provide the healing you need. If you turn to Him and pray and trust Him with your hurts, He will heal you.

Love & Hugs, Kris