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Date Posted: 16:47:20 01/21/07 Sun
In reply to:
Ky
's message, "I think I was sorely mistaken..." on 23:46:22 01/18/07 Thu
Ky,
I am glad you came.
For the time being, you will probably have to discipline yourself to pay attention to your studies. Working through an abortion experience takes awhile.
If abortion was the right choice for you, why are you hurting so much? It sounds to me like your mind is at war with your heart. I don't know how much you know about pregnancy and abortion, and it would be helpful if I did.
Abortion is a deep invasion of a woman's body. She has already bonded to her baby. It is a hormonal bond. That happens in the first couple of days. But we are unaware of it for quite awhile. It goes against our instincts to have an abortion. The fact is, you can't go back to the way things were. You will always have been pregnant. But you can heal emotionally. The first thing you would have to do is to reconcile your mind and heart. You may have had a lot of logical reasons for having an abortion, but your heart is telling you otherwise. Chances are, your logical reasons would have been resolved in another way if you had had access to alternatives as well as sufficient information about the emotional aftermath of abortion. But a woman needs to make a decision she can live with. Your path to healing won't start until you bring your mind and heart together in agreement. If your heart tells you that you didn't make the right decision, it is most likely correct. You obviously still think that it was logical to have an abortion. But like I said, that isn't the only consideration.
Most likely, you went into this with insufficient information. Try to tell yourself that you acted with the knowledge you had, which doesn't make you stupid. People may have lied to you about pregnancy and abortion, and you may have been coerced. In spite of this, you will ultimately have to take responsibility for your decisions. This doesn't mean you should blame yourself for the lies and the coercion. It does mean that you acknowledge that you did make a decision that has had unexpected consequences.
Another thing that may be contributing to your feeling of being sick frequently may be the fact that your hormones have been disrupted twice. I don't know a good way around this consequence, or I would certainly tell you.
One other consideration is important. How do you feel about the actions that led up to pregnancy? Did you violate your own inner standards? If you did, this will also have to be resolved. I would recommend that you stay out of the situation that led to your pregnancy, to concentrate on school. This will also require some thought and sorting out on your part. It may not be obvious to you that you did violate your own standards. Think about which of you first approached the other for these activities, and how you felt about it at the time. Aside from the possibility of pregnancy, there are emotional consequences from these activities as well as the dangers of picking up an STD. If you think there is any possibility you did, please have a doctor check you out. It could also be contributing to your repeated illness.
We will be here for you. Please keep in touch. We care about you.
Hugs,
Pat
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