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Date Posted: 16:32:01 09/09/06 Sat
Author: Betsy
Subject: Life marches onward.

First of all, I miss you all and think fondly of the times I have gotten to hug some of you in person. I miss the laughter, tears, insights, and outsights we've shared. But, life does change and we all are pulled so strongly in different directions, eh? Ever wonder why we all ended up here when we did? Why each of us was moved to be a part of this board that has been important to us and has helped forge friendships that will go on and on?
For me personally, it has been a year of tremendous changes. I have cared for my parents full time (except when I was at work, also full time and then David and kids pitched in. I held my dear Dad in my arms as he left this life and then two months later did the same with my mother. Her passing was not a lovely, sweet death even though I did my best as a daughter and a nurse to assure her comfort. My DH says that it was her way of flipping me the final bird as she left....and he might be right. But we accomplished what we all wanted. My folks lived home with us, surrounded by the comings and goings of daily life and died in their own beds, in my arms. It is so bittersweet.
And my children....DD#2 is preparing to leave for grad school in England. DD#3 has joined the Navy and although she was scouted, recruited, auditioned and MADE the Navy Women's Soccer Team (that's BIG STUFF!!!) she has opted to give up the soccer to go to Japan. For three years. Next month. DS, child #4, is in his final year of school, and he's headed somewhere-to-be-decided-at-a-later-date. Captain of his football team, and after that is basketball then baseball. I bought a new bleecher chair so I won't get such bad bleecher-butt! DD#1 and her husband, dispite two forms of birth control and him being gone to hike the Apalachian Trail end-to-end, somehow managed to get with child. So I am to be a granny in March!!!
I will refrain from discussing how I have reacted to this all. Leave it to say that our intellects and our emotions seem to be two seperate (and not equal) parts of us. Hahahahahahaha. BUT, life DOES go on. I bought myself a refrigerator magnet the other day that says

"everything will be okay in the end if it's not okay, it isn't the end" (unknown)

I do believe that might be so.

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[> Wow, Betsy, there's always something, eh? ;) Sounds like your life is busy. Congrats on the granny thing.*VBG* And I like your fridge magnet! Good way of looking at things. ;) -- Martina, 07:50:39 09/10/06 Sun


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[> [> Yes, Martina, as long as we have life, that will be ever true...there's always something!!!! Life is not dull ever, eh??? -- Betsy, 14:49:04 09/16/06 Sat


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[> (((((Betsy, Dave and kids)))))). I'm so sorry to hear of your Mum's passing so soon after your Dad. It's certainly been a year of challenges for you. Wow-the kids!!!! So much happening. I will give you a call very shortly. Are you still working nights? Please congratulate Tirzah and Dave and wish them well. -- Keira, 21:16:49 09/12/06 Tue


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[> [> (((((((((((Betsy)))))))))) you and your family are all in my thoughts, what a summer you've all had. It's wonderful to know that a new little life is growing, what joy that will bring! (heh, don't know what to say about the birth control..except, I guess it was just meant to be!!) sending you lots of love! -- Viive, 18:08:34 09/13/06 Wed


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[> [> Actually, I think I owe YOU a call, Keira. Lots of changes here, but yes, I am still working nights. But I have a wonderful new schedual. I work two twelves and get paid for three!!!! YIPPPPEEEEEEEE..... and I only have to work every third weekend! AND they ask me before the new schedual comes out what days I need off!!!! UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!! How did school go for you this last semester? And you're done now, aren't you??Good for you!!!! -- Betsy, 14:53:33 09/16/06 Sat


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[> Betsy I love knowing that it isn't the end! What a perfect fridge magnet!! -- Viive, 10:02:55 09/15/06 Fri


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[> [> I know, Viive, I keep reading and re-reading it every day. It has kept me sane. For the first time in my life, I was unable to see or feel joy. Very unlike me. This little magnet helped me to at least know if not now, at least SOMETIME I will be okay. And I am getting there. Every day has a few brighter moments than the last. And I can now be thankful for all that is bountiful in my life, like LOVE and KIDS and DAVID (who has been my rock). -- Betsy, 14:46:48 09/16/06 Sat


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[> Just 2 mn to say I'm very happy to hear from you Betsy, sorry can't stay long, I've had surgery last wednesday and trying to recover. I am now the proud owner of a brand new smaller breast. It still hurt of course but so well worth it, I can breathe better and I can see my feet 'g'. I'll come back later when I feel stronger. Hugs to all -- Isabelle, 10:00:46 09/18/06 Mon


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[> [> (((((ISABELLE))))) Swift and easy recovery to you. Congratulations to you for your physical step forward!!! -- Betsy, 12:13:59 09/19/06 Tue


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[> [> ((((((((((((((Isabelle)))))))))))))) sending you wishes for a speedy recovery as well! I'm sure you'll find a new ease of movement, I have a friend who went through similar surgery (it affected her back and her breathing) and she found she could even dance better after. Nurture yourself through your recovery, take a week longer to rest than you think you should ;) ... and then have fun counting your toes! -- much love, Viive, 18:39:32 09/19/06 Tue


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