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Date Posted: 17:53:11 05/24/05 Tue
Author: Lawshark
Subject: Back again just to say...
In reply to: bfny 's message, "you know what, LS? I am caving right now" on 05:31:36 05/24/05 Tue

that I'm thinking of you guys. I wish you the best in trying to come to terms with this...whichever way you go. I completely understand (believe) how much of a nightmare it would be to try to raise three kids in NYC. Heck, now that we have 2 kids it is amazing how much more complicated everything is...can you believe there was a time when you thought that having one 6 month old to take care of was "stressful" or "took up a lot of time"??? Hah! That was easy. Drop 3 kids in NYC? Multiply the stress even more.

I sympathize with the "both jobs for sanity" part too. Laura gets nearly to the end of her rope at times being home with both boys...that's part of the reason that a sweet paying part time job with her brother is so appealing. Boys especially can be tough, it seems. Andrew is also tougher than most boys. We've been having him tested left and right...he just can't seem to handle school particularly well...we had gotten referred over to Childrens Development Services (CDS). At least 50% is probably the need for a swift kick in the ass...but there does seem to be something quirky in the other 50%...he's just wired differently. Sensory Integration Disorder? Maybe part of it...he seems to have trouble processing sounds and excitement at times...he ends up jumping up and down flapping his arms when he gets excited or has trouble with something...who knows. In any event, he's going to go into a special program next year...the state pays for it. I feel quite odd doing that...having them pay...but they are barred by law from having the parents pay...but...I digress...my rambling point is that if we ended up with another child on the way right now...oh god...what a mess that would be. We would both be stressed out of our mind about it.

Only you two can decide what you can handle right now...what changes you can make and can't make. I'm in no way saying that the things you're weighing are easy to reconcile or decide. It's monumentally tough. I hope that you guys come to a spot where you can make it through with your decision and be able to bear it...although whichever way you go there will be some heartache.

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