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] Date Posted: 9/01/07 20:15 In reply to: newy 's message, "lost" on 9/01/07 13:08 Firstly, stop beating yourself up about what has happened, whats done is done, the most important thing is to learn from it and to make sure it NEVER happens again. Whether she can see that you are doing something about it and are truly sorry is in no-ones hands but hers. The only advice I can give is to light a candle, pray she'll see you, take things slowly and hopefully things will work out. I wish I could help more but i'll keep you in my prayers blessings love and light Wolf [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: zenwind [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 20:50 Hi, Before I go on realise I do not know much about specifically pagan approaches to situations and I know that is what you requested but reading your post I was moved and wanted to respond to you. What I will say is that newy that speaks to us now is not his/her anger....the anger is merely a state of mind that happened in you because I assume you felt hurt or attacked in some way. It is anger that is the probem, not you...so please be less hard on yourself. You are already saying that you recognise that your reaction was harmful and you feel remorse which will assist you in future to do things differently. There is a saying: "Fall down seven times, get up eight." Perhaps you may need support to do so? Guilt makes us turn anger on ourselves which helps nobody so please try to give yourself a break...for your friend and for you. Guilt can't undo your past actions, it doesn't help you understand the situation any better than you already do and it won't help you move on, resolve things with your friend or forgive yourself. From what you say it is very difficult to say anything additional on specifics and I have probably already made some assumptions that aren't appropriate. I do not know whether you feel your reaction is something that may come up again and create pain in your or towards those you care for. You may need a structured solution or support externally as already mentioned. Perhaps some kind of calming meditation could help to help you find some space, calm your mind and develop a more accepting frame of mind. may all be well namaste zenwind [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |