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] Date Posted: 8/01/07 20:08 Please could you all keep us in your thoughts today? it would have been grandad's 88th birthday, i got a rose to put by his photo and have a candle lit for him tonight.... he has been in my mind every second of my day,, i am missing him and nan so very much at the moment i'm hurting. love sam xxxxxx [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: zenwind [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 8/01/07 20:38 Oh lovely one, Closing my eyes, thinking of you all and holding you in my heart and mind now and at throughout this difficult time.... Sending hugs and love to soothe your hurting.... zenwind /\ [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: whitewolf [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 8/01/07 21:59 A candle is lit for grandad *•*°*•*big golden hugs and waves of peace and love flowing over and around you*•*°*•* [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Lilly from the Valley [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 8:14 Sam, Im sorry I didnt pick this message up sooner but you are in my thoughts hun. I bet your grandad & nan have had a right old knees up and Im sure they are missing you as much as you are missing them. Allow yourself to miss them & just go with the flow. Lil [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sam spaniel [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 13:55 i feel so lonely without them just now. i haven't been thinking about anything else for days, i try to keep busy but i keep wandering back to them, last thursday night they came to me in a dream, they looked really well and told me all is well with them and i felt grateful for them and happy, but in the long run, it has just made me want to see them and hug them and speak to them again.... i do miss them so much, it seems that everything around me, even scenes i drive by, remind me of them, the sheep in the fields, the sprouting up of the new snowdrops, i just feel i need to be with them . i thought this whole grief thing got easier , but it seems to be getting harder and harder, at night i don't sleep at all....my concentration has gone down the pan, work mates have asked why i am so quiet lately ,,, i thought i might go to the GP and ask for some time off work to deal with my self a bit, but my boss said if i take time off sick i will be disiplined for it as it will be my 4th time off sick within the financial year!!! ( even with a doctors note!!! ) so i cant take time out... i cant get everything out of my head, i feel all messed up, and like screaming !!!! i'm going to the crematorium to 'see' them on saturday morning, does anyone think it would do me good to take a candle in a jar and just sit with them for a while??? i just don't know what to do. love and blessings to all you kind folk xx sam xx [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: newy [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 16:14 reading your message today, and the replies that you have had sent, really made me feel sad today, and made me remember my family and friends that have past. my heart and soul are with you. newy [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: Pilgrim [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 17:46 ((((Hugs))))) I'm sending you peaceful energy Sam. The grief does get easier after time but it can come in very strong waves even after years. My father passed 21 years ago and ocasionally I still feel very sad. But IT DOES GET EASIER. It really hasn't been that long ago that you lost them. Give yourself time. Thinking of you. Pilgrim [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: paganwolf [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 20:06 You're in my prayers, i've lit a candle for you Blessings love and light Wolf [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: zenwind [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 21:23 *big hug* sam. I know how those dreams go, they are bittersweet. You know they are at peace and happy but it also makes your long for them more. My beloved soul mate of a grandma died 16 years ago, it was her birthday on 5th Jan and the pain filled my heart even though I know she is at peace (I have tears now *sharing the sadness together*). We are with you lovely Sam, the pain does lessen with time but the love stays and grows in time too. hugs and love zenwind [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: whitewolf [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 10/01/07 2:06 "the pain does lessen with time but the love stays and grows in time too." SO beautifully put zenwind, and I agree. Sweet Sam ((((hugs)))) it will get less painful, as Pilgrim said, it hasn't be that long, and especially at this time of year (celebrations mixed up with long dark, cold days) it can be hard to deal with. We are all here for you. Perhaps growing a plant / shrub / tree special to them and tending it and watching it grow will help you. Remember you can chat to them any time / any place - but you know they wouldn't want you to be sad and hurting.... you are a loving, beautiful and strong woman - things will get better sis. Extra big hugs and blessings. I love you. x [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: mia [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 10/01/07 12:26 i'm so sorry to hear you are so sad. as everyone has said, it is early days and although it feels like it never will, it does get better. whitewolf you say "Perhaps growing a plant / shrub / tree special to them and tending it and watching it grow will help you" and i think that is a really good idea. it may help you feel connected to them still. hugs mia x [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sweetsong [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 10/01/07 13:14 i feel like you too. my life feels full of losses but love never dies. (((((hugs))))) [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sam spaniel [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 12/01/07 16:48 thank you all so much for your support..... my dad has also suggested we have a garden for them (nan and grandad) by one of our ponds, with minutare roses, fuchias etc and all of their favorite plants growing in it.... we are going to buy a bench also in the spring time to put in their garden so, when i feel like it i can turn off my mobile and take my book or whatever there and be in my own haven 'with' them...we took a lot of their garden ornaments when we cleared the property, such as angel/garden faeries,animals etc and we're gonna put them there too, i feel them with me at times , but i still feel so lonely and if i do have a good laugh and a joke/night out or whatever then i kind of feel extra sad the next day... because i can't show them the pictures of the fun i had . i know i can tell them about it but i still want to hold them, feel them hold me and tell them one last bittersweet time that i love them so much... i never want to let them go..... i'm taking one of the roses i 'got' grandad for his birthday to the crem tomorrow, just to lay below 'their' tree, i'll say my words to them, maybe shed a few tears and then i'll say as my grandad always did....'see you when you're older' (i'll also be filling the peanut bird feeder we put there) and i'll go home..... but i feel i don't want to leave them there... it's so weired, i cant leave i would just stay there , under their tree, and listen to the goings on, see the people walking past , hear the birds, maybe even see the family of rabbits who have made their home just a few meters from where nan and grandad are..... but i don't want to leave them, to turn my back and drive away, i'd camp out and sleep there if i were allowed.... i feel like a weirdo... i believe there is something after death... a soul lives on, but where does all the love i have for them go now. i can't keep it all inside, i tell them every night that i love them in hope they will hear and smile at each other. i'm going on now, so i'll leave it there, i have so much floating around me i don't know what to do. and i can't really explain it to anyone.... jeez i'm a strange being!! love you guys and thank you so much xx Sam xx [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |
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Author: sam spaniel (a little less stressed) [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 14/01/07 18:32 i feel a little better today, dad and i went to the crem, filled up the peanut holder and said hello to nan and grandad, we also saw some rabbits who have decided to reside almost right next to their tree ( i can see grandad with his catapult !! lol) and we also went for a walk around the grounds and found they have a fish pond, so next time we're gonna feed the fish as well as the birds!!! (grandad had a beautiful fish pond) so in that respect i feel a little less stressed. i love all you guys thanks for your amazing support. Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |