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] Date Posted: 9/01/07 20:50 In reply to: newy 's message, "lost" on 9/01/07 13:08 Hi, Before I go on realise I do not know much about specifically pagan approaches to situations and I know that is what you requested but reading your post I was moved and wanted to respond to you. What I will say is that newy that speaks to us now is not his/her anger....the anger is merely a state of mind that happened in you because I assume you felt hurt or attacked in some way. It is anger that is the probem, not you...so please be less hard on yourself. You are already saying that you recognise that your reaction was harmful and you feel remorse which will assist you in future to do things differently. There is a saying: "Fall down seven times, get up eight." Perhaps you may need support to do so? Guilt makes us turn anger on ourselves which helps nobody so please try to give yourself a break...for your friend and for you. Guilt can't undo your past actions, it doesn't help you understand the situation any better than you already do and it won't help you move on, resolve things with your friend or forgive yourself. From what you say it is very difficult to say anything additional on specifics and I have probably already made some assumptions that aren't appropriate. I do not know whether you feel your reaction is something that may come up again and create pain in your or towards those you care for. You may need a structured solution or support externally as already mentioned. Perhaps some kind of calming meditation could help to help you find some space, calm your mind and develop a more accepting frame of mind. may all be well namaste zenwind [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: newy [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 9/01/07 21:19 thank you to everyone... one person who heard all the fighting goin on, has said that it was not all me. and the things that my now ex has said, she is not as bad as was claimed. i do thank you all for trying to help, but i just cannot believe it was me. a friend of mine asked if there was a possibility of my drink been spiked, this i will never know. i just cant believe it happend. [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |