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Subject: How often do they actually leave? Author: Vanessa [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 17:14:21 03/11/07 Sun He keeps saying "well I'm just going to get my things and find a place to stay."....waiting...waiting...waiting. He travels for his work 3 to 4 nights a week but you can feel a pall settle over the house when it's time for him to come home and I hate to see weekends coming because the stress is maddening. He comes back in after his travel like nothing has been done or said!! I am totally confused!!! I am trying to find someway out of here or I am going to flip because I get the feeling he ain't gonna' budge. How often do they really go? HELP!! [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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Subject Author Date Hi Vanessa - I need to ask, do you want him to leave or to stay? I hear your frustration, but not your desire. I need to have more clarity to answer, but I will say this: As an adult, you can do what you want. You can be with who you want. The question is... what do you really want? Dr. Tracy Kemble 20:00:02 03/16/07 Fri Re: How often do they actually leave? Vanessa 17:45:26 03/17/07 Sat Hi Vanessa. The question that comes to mind is why do you feel like a prisoner? You are not caged, so something is making you stay. He might be happy in the relationship and has no intention of leaving. You however are not. You cannot expect him to make a move that you want for your life. That is not taking responsibility. So examine why you stay and remember that you cannot control anyone's life but your own. That includes hoping that he will leave to end YOUR pain. Hope this helps. Dr. Tracy Kemble 19:09:08 04/03/07 Tue