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Date Posted: 10:03:13 02/18/16 Thu
Author: Richard
Subject: Re: Would I be crazy?
In reply to: Leah K. 's message, "Would I be crazy?" on 16:03:44 02/17/16 Wed

Leah,

You are the one who knows your child best compared to the rest of us. With that said, there are indicators you could look at to determine if he may have gender identity issues. A gender specialist can help make that determination.

In the meantime, there really is no harm in talking to your child about what they think of themselves. You can ask him if he would rather be a girl instead of a boy, or if he wants to try spending time as a girl. Letting him wear girl's clothing isn't something that any child welfare group is going to raise a stink over unless it is something that you are forcing him to do or using as a humiliation/punishment, that could be considered emotional abuse. On the contrary, if he does have gender identity issues, forcing him to grow up into something he doesn't want to be could be construed to be abuse just the same.

If the sperm donor (I hesitate to use the term father as I reserve that for men who care for their kids) wants to raise a stink over it and call authorities, let him. Should they come out and investigate, they'll talk to your child to determine if you are doing something wrong--if your child is happier living life as a girl than a boy, then you are being supportive of who they are and not hurting them in any way, they'll leave you alone.

In short, talk to your child and ask him what he wants, offer to let him try things to see if that is what he likes. You're not making him a sissy, instead you're helping him get his gender identity figured out.

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Replies:

  • Re: Would I be crazy? -- Corey, 12:44:03 02/18/16 Thu
  • Re: Would I be crazy? -- Jen (to Leah) (to Corey), 17:11:49 02/19/16 Fri
  • Re: Would I be crazy? -- Leah (optimistic), 13:10:17 02/20/16 Sat
  • Re: Would I be crazy? Corey?? -- Summer, 15:03:24 03/03/16 Thu
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