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Subject: Re: My marital spankings Author: Emmie Sue [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 05:38:41 10/14/25 Tue In reply to: Kim47 's message, "My marital spankings" on 06:58:32 10/13/25 Mon Cool. Thanks for posting. I hope to have a real relationship like that one day, but I think with a woman. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: My marital spankings Author: Lessja [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 04:42:06 10/19/25 Sun >I realize that this isn't a typical post here, but it felt >good to share my experience and I wonder if anyone else can >identify. It's not something I talk with others about. Being unmarried and much younger, I cannot identify, but I can relate to two specific points: My spanking relationships were straightforward kinky/BDSM stuff, but there were strong elements of punishment for the big and little sins of everyday life. It's still a paradox for me how this can fit together (enduring pain sometimes to please my partner or as a challenge and sometimes as a punishment that actually feels like one). Somehow it worked for me, and the discipline aspect is actually the part I miss most about that lifestyle. Being sexually submissive is a trait my female friends are perfectly cool with. Some of them share it. The fact that I crave actual discipline is known by few and has raised eyebrows. I think they hope I'll grow out of it, but after months without an actual spanking, I don't think I will. Thank you for posting, Kim. It's hard to imagine myself 20 years from now, but apart from that I find your situation easier to relate to than many other accounts. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> Subject: Re: My marital spankings Author: Kim47 [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07:03:34 10/20/25 Mon Lessja and others, thank you for the thoughtful responses. My loving husband8 would agree that my spankings are a paradox and he was the one who was resistant to moving from erotic spanking to the disciplinary variety. It's probably not a typical progression, but it worked for us, as hand spankings were replaced by the hairbrush or wooden spatula. It's a puzzlement for me too, as I like the idea of having a husband who will discipline me and enjoy being bared and over his knee. The sting of the implements and the effect they leave on my posterior change everything though and it generates real soul searching on my part. There have been a few instances where I've talked my way out of a spanking, but the submissive side of me otherwise goes along with his judgement. I appreciate that he will discipline me, but also like it that he listens. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: My marital spankings Author: Brett [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 18:16:52 10/20/25 Mon The conventional wisdom seems to be that for discipline to be effective, punishment must be some awful consequence that you should never want to happen again. From what I've read in countless places, Domestic Discipline as practiced by adults is typically like what you describe. Primarily, it fulfills a kinky desire for certain physical sensations, for power exchange with a sexual partner and, for many, feelings of vulnerability that are a range of pleasant to very difficult but cathartic emotions. If DD is also effective discipline, and for many reasons it can be, that's icing on the cake. It can act as a powerful form of communication between partners that does improve behavior, attitude, or motivate achievement. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]

[> [> [> Subject: Re: My marital spankings Author: mg [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 20:18:18 11/09/25 Sun Thanks for posting. Married 30+ years, and spankings have changed for us over the years. Could I ask you some questions, privately? [ Post a Reply to This Message ]