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Subject: Need to sort things out for the sake of our kids

Author:
Karen (frustrated)

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Date Posted: 20:55:44 02/21/11 Mon

Hello there, I am wife of Gordon who has dyslexia and cant spell...we have 2 children with one on the way. The past 3 years have been very rough for us. There are bound to be similar stories but to keep things short:
Gordon is a Commercial tomato grower, we have been together for 6 years with our oldest child 4 yrs.
Gordon has had a couple of crop losses due to wrongly supplied fertiliser. We ended up taking the company responsible to court. We got into financial difficulty.
We had servere foodpoisoning the whole family including my parents...gordon had a stroke in the middle of having the food poisoning. The doctors reckon it was severe dehydration that caused it. Gordon because of his dyslexia was used to doing very physical work. Now that he has had the stroke it has affected his whole right side, short term memory, tiredness, plus blindness in his right eye. We now have to look at our options because we have a family to bring up. We have considered leasing his glasshouses out. They need a little bit of repair work done to them first. Gordon is wanting to have a change from growing but what does he do or can he do for a job or business. He is wanting to still work for himself. Because he is disheartened, is negative & puts barriers up when you suggest ideas and has feeling of who would employ him. He has his good and bad days with his syptoms. I was a horticulturalist before kids, I am a stay at home mother who is considering going back to study to get into a better career. I don't know how I can do that because I have no funds to do so. Please any advice needed. We need to sort our lives out for the sake of our children. thankyou

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[> Subject: Re: Need to sort things out for the sake of our kids

Author:
Michele
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Date Posted: 07:52:46 03/13/11 Sun

My prayers are with you and your family. You stated that Gordon grew tomatoes. He knows that work...but because of his stroke he can no longer continue doing that. However, Gordon knows this business very well. Have you considered having Gordon teach others how to do it. Instead of selling your stuff...perhaps use them as a training area and begin teaching others how to do this successfully. Gordon has a lot of knowledge to impart and by teaching and training others (he could become a consultant to other tomatoe growers who may be having trouble growing them well), he can continue doing what he loves to do and help others at the same time, as well as bring and income into the family. You stated that you have been trained in horticulture. Have you considered getting books at the library and continuing you learning more of what you already know. You could also become a plant consultant and help others learn to take care of their plants and still be a stay at home mom. You could also become a plant dr and help others nurture and heal their plants. I think you both have a lot of good knowledge to share with others and that knowledge could help turn what feels like a negative into a postive. Hang in there...things will get better. Wishing you all the best.