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Subject: Re: depressed 58 year old woman

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Elizabeth (happilly dyslectic)

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Date Posted: 12:53:14 03/11/10 Thu
In reply to: Carole Miles 's message, "Re: depressed 58 year old woman" on 08:47:30 01/01/10 Fri

Ruth,
Carole is right. I have been through feeling silly. Learning that I was dyslectic freed me of all my fears. Now I don't care that i cannot spell! Luckily there are computer programs that check your spelling for you. This way I can be a journalist - which I actually am. I can also read people, just like you. My mind also uses out of the mold patterns. There is a lot in common between all of us.
I am sure nobody thinks that you are stupid. As for me - I know I am not - I have managed to hide my disability all my life!
As long as it is not a severe case, I don't see what is so wrong with dyslexia. It only makes you more distinctive in the crowd!

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Don (Interesting)
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Date Posted: 11:05:41 07/28/10 Wed

I am married to a 58 year old female that cannot read or write. We got married when she was 19 years old. I did not realise the problem until she was about 21. Believe it or not tests revealed she was not dyslexic. (1974) I beleive these tests were wrong and they succeeded in ensuring her belief in herself as simply "Dumb".

She tried a number of adult literacey classes over the years that made her feel even worse as the students had other disabilities. Our two children were born in the early 80`s.

She was determined they would not feel like her. She worked as an irononing & cleaning lady and personally paid for good education as she feared they may inherit her perceived intelligence.

Those kids are now double degreed beautiful adults ... anyhow to this day she beleives she is still dumb (but I know otherwise) and as we approach our retirement years she would like to try touching a keyboard & seeking help on the internet. (I am trying again to get her motivated to challenge her demon)
She tells me that books designed to help her are childish, dumb and demeaning. Perhaps you can help guide me to help her. (Ithink she would love to read books on animals or even nice romantic true stories on life)

I bet you are like my wife. I always use her incredible intuition, particularly when I have to make a judgement that relates to individual people or regarding colour or furniture selection for interior house design. But guess what she still gets very depressed at her work when asked to attend basic training requirements (She is employed as a cleaner still) as her peers & friends become aware of her disability. She is incredibly witty and can dress me down to size anytime with a ferocious tongue - especially at a younger age around menstruation time.

As we have grown old together I have fallen in love with her even more.

Can you help me help her? She would like to learn in private by the internet. She can only dream about the educational possibilities you have overcome.(she can`t even turn a computor on at the moment, but if I can introduce her to some entertaining type, learning challenges I think she will respond positiveley. Suggested websites would be good. For you to have acheved so much when dyslexic means you will be doubly gifted. You will have developed great ways to hide your fears - but in fact developed great perceptions in other fields. Don`t waste such great Talent - I know you can be of great help to many.