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Subject: dating an adult with dyslexia Author: Ellen Bourque (optimistic) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 10:09:21 11/06/11 Sun I am dating an intelligent, successful professional adult (61 yrs) and am finding his disability is severely damaging our relationship. I want to help this person that I love, but I don't know where to begin. Although he acknowledges his dyslexia, jokes about it often, he minimizes the effects its' having on our relationship. I am an educator who teaches ESL and I am ready, willing, and able to commit time to helping him and us. Suggestions? [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: dating an adult with dyslexia Author: Nick [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 21:59:56 06/02/12 Sat There is one important method that you can use: communication. I'm a 19 year old college student with a dyslexic girlfriend. We are currently 3 months strong and enjoying our time together. Even though this is responding to an outdated post, I hope this helps anyone who happens to read it. Look first to understand, then be understood. Good communication is vital. Each person with dyslexia has their own story. There are unique fears, struggles, past issues, accomplishments, passions, and love embedded in their story. These need to be understood in order to connect with your partner. Knowing your partner's story--who.they are--is necessary for both dyslexics and non-dyslexics. After understanding your partner's story, do some research on what dsylexia is and is not. In short, Dyslexia is believed to be a genetically based learning difference that affects reading, oral-comprehension and verbal memory. It can cause other social and emotional effects such as low self-esteem. Specifically, dyslexia is a language deficit that impairs the ability to break apart the small sounds (phonemes) of words. Doing some research on dyslexia can only help your partner. After understanding your partner, you can better empathize and problem-solve around their difficulties--whatever those are. If it's an issue with memory, then ask them to paraphrase what you said and have them write it down. You can help them, In coordination with others, work through their past. If they have trouble reading, then you can read for them when they want help. These examples are certainly not exhaustive and serve to model solutions for common problems. Problem-solving depends on the specifics of the situation: your needs, your partner's needs, and his dyslexia. If you can, talk to or get in touch with others that have dated a partner with dyslexia. It is invaluable to learn from those who have experienced something similar and achieve what you hope to achieve. I wish you and everyone who reads this the best of luck with your relationship. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]