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Subject: Depressed and low self esteem about dyslexia

Author:
Lara H (sad)

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Date Posted: 12:11:39 01/18/12 Wed

I guess my dyslexia never bothered me that badly before I came to uni. My mum has told me it did when i was alot younger but i don't really remember.

I am just tired and frustrated by it. I work really hard at uni, get all the help offered to me by the support services, spend ages on my essays, work ten times harder than all my friends, spend all my time in my room working and still don't get the marks i want. I have asked my lecturers for help but there is little they can do.

I just feel like its impacted on my self esteem massively. I have no faith in my ability any more. When I get bad marks I get so upset because I have huge goals and ambitions for the future.

I just think, I work so hard and get help, yet still don't get great marks. I feel like there must be something fundamentally wrong with me, sometimes even that I am not as intelligent as my friends (they get good marks so easily, with so much less work than me).

I am now in my final year and have started looking at getting a job in my area. However, every job I look at requires lots of reading, or writing, or presenting (i get confused). I just feel like i am lacking all the skills that employers would want.

I used to be more positive about it, but now its all faded and I just want to be able to achieve like the people around me. I want to be able to get out of uni what I put into it, rather than constantly not feeling good enough.

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Loquacious
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Date Posted: 12:20:35 01/30/12 Mon

Hi, i know exactly what you mean and can totally understand your frustration. I did a degree and tried to do the same as everyone else and my grades suffered!!! It was one of my lecturers who told me to use the strengths that came with having dyslexia. It is one amazing imagination. Once i did this my grade rocketed.

Try using more visual representations for your notes. Only compete against yourself. (your a holistic learner). Have fun finding new ways to complete your assignments.

Brain storm with your peers, we seem to be fantastic at getting others to tell us what we need to know!!! Its a gift.

Remember the education system is set up for left brain people and your right brain dominant. You have achieved so much now!!! Jobs all seem to include a lot of reading and writing but once your doing the job, you will find unique ways around that!! trust me.

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Lara H
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Date Posted: 06:18:43 03/02/12 Fri

Hey thanks for the reply.
Ive been feeling a lot better reccently. I do find it differcult to see it as a gift at the moment, due to the way academia is formed. I think that will change in the future as my life won't be as based around 'writing things right' and being coherant in essays. I shouldn't beat myself up so much really, I get good marks, but I just find I have to spent so much longer getting them. I get confused easily and end up frustrated and angry. My dyslexic qualities have done me well in other aspects of life, its just my inablity to express myself in writing that is my biggest issue.
I have been told so many times not to compare myself, but I sometimes can't help it.
Just to let you know I've applied for a masters (shockingly) as it will help me get the job I want. However much I dislike certain aspects of university, I love learning and I love what I study. I have also reccently got a programe that I can scan books into my computer with and read them out to me. I finally feel normal! I don't have to look the whole internet for journals (i just had a PDF reader before) and not complete the reading lists. This also gives me more confidence when I start looking for jobs, I won't be put off by lots of reading as I can get that done with the reading program.
Thanks again for your help xx

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[> Subject: Re: Depressed and low self esteem about dyslexia
Author: Gary [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 19:27:19 03/02/12 Fri I'm dyslexic and things have been hard for me. I learned to read at a very late age. Now at 56 I feel I can read well, but slow, But feel that all the time I spent learning to read I have lost time in my growing around people and learning to interact. [ Post a Reply to This Message ]