Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 08:34:34 03/14/08 Fri
Dear Vicki,
Can I ask you something? Where do you see yourself in another year or two? Do you picture yourself with a baby & your boyfriend in a house full of smoke from weed? Would that be healthy for a baby? Seriously?
If you have headaches, and nausea and stomach pain daily, you may have an STD or something else going on. Two years of regular intercourse and no resulting pregnancy also says there may be something wrong in your body.
If you truly want to bring a child into the world, PLEASE, get yourself healthy first. There's a threefold issue here to that. You need physical health, emotional health, and spiritual health. It seems to me from your post that all three of these areas need some work in your life.
Drug addicted people tend to be running from emotional pain. Your boyfriend would do better to face that pain honestly and get away from drugs of all kinds. If you are also using weed or anything, you need to do the same.
We all carry hurts from our past with us and it's important to deal with them. Finding a way that works for you may require the help of a counselor.
So, #1 - give up drugs and stay away from them. Get addicted to walking, running, exercise & eating right and taking vitamins.
Emotionally, when we hurt, we can do so many different unhealthy things trying to cope with it. Drugs, abuse, apapthy, all can play into that.
To become whole emotionally takes effort - it takes courage, but you have it in you and you MUST do what it takes to find that healing.
#2 - Think about your place in the world, the responsibility you have to be a good citizen. A good friend, and good neighbor. I strongly suggest you find a good counselor and go.
Spiritually, we all have it in us that there is more to this life than just what we see. If we spent any decent amount of time alone on a beach or in the woods, and listened, you would realize there's so much more to this world than just being a human. There is a force larger than us at work in this world. There is a creator that made us and everything around us - all of nature testifies to this truth.
When we deny God and run from Him, things never go well. It may seem fine for a time, but it all eventually catches up with you.
If you ever knew God before, remember He still there waiting for you. He LOVES you in spite of anything and everything.
#3 - Go back to church - if you've never gone - find one and go. You need to make peace with your Creator. You can even find counseling there - many times free of charge.
Once you get all things back in balance, and you find the person you were meant to be with all your life, THEN and ONLY then should you bring a new life into this world.
That's my "mom" lecture I guess - but Vicki - I'm telling you the truth because I really do care.
Love,
Kris
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