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Subject: I can't make up my mind

Author:
Me

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Date Posted: 11:50:17 01/28/08 Mon

I really need help or advice. I'm 15 weeks pregnant with twins. I have a 7yr as well. I got pregnant last spring and found out it was twins early. Due to stress, complications and non support from the dad I had an abortion. I didn't even believe in abortions before that. Of course I was upset and depressed afterwards thinking I was less than human and I swore off sex. I went 8 months without sex and gave in (different guy). The 2nd time I gave in I got pregnant. I thought he had on protection and find out later he didn't. When I found out, I knew I was having the child because I didn't want to keep doing the alternative. I found out they are twins as well and was very excited told the whole family and my boss. Recntly I started getting scared again. One week I'm picking out names and very excited and the next week I'm terrified. I didn't start feeling this way until I hit about 12 weeks. I told my 7yr old about the twins and he is very excited, at the time I didn't intend on my feelings changing. I really don't know what to do. My stress is because of finances and support from the father who doesn't even call me anymore. My 7yr old's dad gets him 3 days a week and is very supportive. I don't know what a full time parent even feels like. I'm really scared to be single with 3 kids and I can tell you if I was financial comfortable or I had more support from the dad, I wouldn't even consider an abortion. I don't regret the first abortion to this day, does that mean I can go through it again and what do I tell my 7yr old. Or is it being twins again so soon a sign that I'm suppose to have twins. My problem is I can't decide, the clock is ticking and I don't want to regret my decision either way. Sorry so long. any advice?

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Re: I can't make up my mind

Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 22:56:27 01/28/08 Mon

Hi,

I just read your post and would like to suggest that you join this support group that I'm a part of. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
You will find women there who can answer your questions and give you advice and encouragement. Also, please feel free to email me privately at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com and I will answer you as soon as I can. Hang in there!

Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl

[> Subject: Re: I can't make up my mind

Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 01:01:08 02/03/08 Sun

I've always wanted twins, but it didn't run in my family. There are a lot of women who have no children who would love to give your twins a home. Have you considered adoption? I have 4 children, so I'm not asking for myself. I just know how much a blessing children are.

When we were low on money and I was pregnant with the 4th one, we always seemed to have enough money, somehow.

I encourage you to look up sites or books (like "What to Expect when Expecting") of how developed your twins are at 12 weeks.

Email me privately or continue to write on the board. Let us know how you're doing.

Heather
song1song@plbb.us