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Subject: I Dont Know What To do


Author:
Kisha (scared)
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Date Posted: 10:40:30 10/29/08 Wed

i am 15 years old and me and my boyfriend (15) had sex 4 weeks ago 9/30/08. I am scared for him and myself because i heard abortions are 300 to 500 dollars and we nor our parents have that.I am wondering if abortions are free for minor ages. Someone help im confused

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Subject: need help urgent


Author:
samyu
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Date Posted: 13:15:02 10/10/08 Fri

Hi,

i really need some help, got this email from www.voy.com and i believe you are kris. well my problem is

can i be pregnant, if i had sex immediately after my mensurational cycle coz i had my cycle completed on august 26. me and my boy friend had sex on 27th night and we had a protective sex only but the next day morning i found that the condom was stuck and came out when passing the urine. i did not get my periods in september on the due day and till date, i have not got my periods yet and at the same time today i did my pregnancy test using the preg card and it showed negative do you think i could be pregnant.

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Subject: IM NOT SURE


Author:
Pooh Bear
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Date Posted: 00:17:33 09/24/08 Wed

IM 23 AND IM TRYN TO FIND OUT IF IM PREGNANT.I HAD SEX 2 DAYS BEFORE MY CYCLE AND ON 8-8-08 IS MY REGULAR DAY I COME ON BUT I DIDMT.TWO DAYS AFTER I STARTED SPOTTEN AND I SPOTTED ON AND OFF THRU OUT MY CYCLE.IM ALSO STILL SPOTTEN.IS THERE A POSSIBILTY THAT I COULD BE PREGNANT

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Subject: Need Advise!


Author:
veronica (Extremely Sad, Confused & very angry.)
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Date Posted: 16:45:48 04/14/08 Mon

Hello,

My name is Veronica. Im a 25 year old woman with a child of 8 yrs old.
Im in a relationship of 5 months now,(FYI..this isn't my daugters father). this relationship is very different from other relationships. met my now boyfriend about a year ago or so knew he already had a girlfriend... was ok with that,, at the time i was with someone else. to make this story short... his girlfriend asked me to move into there home. she knew he had the hots for me, she aldo knew that he wanted something else besides just a friendship and she was okay with that (( funny but true)).. weeks passed, became closer to one another and finaly we began a relationship.. so now He had his 2 ladies living in the same house.. to all this my daughter knows NOTHING about this.. on her eyes and my family's eyes we're all just "roommates" ANYWAY....

We've been "of course" having unprotected sex therefor im 5 weeks pregnant now.
The resaon for this message is to get advise and some confort.
My partner isn't okay with me having this child therefor he is strongly considering an abortion. i strongly on my part, DO NOT BELIEVE in abortions. so were basicly like oil n water ((( not mixing))) & that's really affecting me alot..
we've discuss this matter numerous times up until WHEN he just got on my nevers n said OKAY IM HAVING AN ABORTION DONE. days later, weeks later i said to my self.... what did i just agreed on????
i now have second thoughts about having one done.. the only things keeping me from having this baby is the fact that #1. he will no longer be with me if i decide to keep this baby, #2. i will have to explain to my daughter that im pergnant by someone that she knows is with someone else and also have a baby by him..
#3 explain this WHOLE situation to my family.

im soooo confused, don't know what to do..
i see him playing with his almost year old daughter n it really hurts to see that he loves her but yet i can't have one...


what to do!!!?

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Subject: could i be pregnant


Author:
so scared (nervous)
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Date Posted: 01:39:36 08/23/08 Sat

me and my guy friend were messing around i gave him a hand job and there were pre cum then we were trying to find my hole and i forgot that i still had precum on my hand while i was trying to find my hole and my period hasnt come on yet and im wondering could i be pregant but we didnt do the whole thing and im still a virgin please answer my question

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Subject: am i pregnat?!


Author:
brianna (scared)
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Date Posted: 15:11:02 07/23/08 Wed

hi,im only 12 and i had sex yesterday.
he was my first and he didnt have a condom.
im really scared because i think he cume inside me.
what do i do?!?!?!?!!
how can i tel my mom i had sex and didnt use a condom.
shes going to be so upset with me!

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Subject: Confused


Author:
Carlie (:-()
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Date Posted: 15:16:46 08/15/08 Fri

Hello. Me and my boyfriend had sex about 6-9 days after my period ended. It was one of those days and we always use a condom. But a week after we had sex my boobs began to become sore and a week later they still are. I feel a little nausious at time but nothing big.I think its just because of my situation. I am 17 and my bf is 19. My period is due in a week. Could i be pregnant or is it a bad case of pms or are my boobs just growing. I am very small chested. Thanks
Carlie

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Subject: Top Ten Signs you may be pregnant


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 08:06:50 07/22/08 Tue

• 10. Tender, swollen breasts
• 9. Fatigue
• 8. Implantation bleeding
• 7. Nausea or vomiting
• 6. Increased sensitivity to odors
• 5. Abdominal bloating
• 4. Frequent urination
• 3. A missed period
• 2. Your basal body temperature stays high
• 1. The proof: A positive pregnancy test

If you think you may be pregnant, you can get a FREE and CONFIDENTIAL test at a pregnancy center - Look one up near you at:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Subject: spotting a week befoe AF


Author:
angie (curious)
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Date Posted: 17:35:28 07/14/08 Mon

hi well me and bf had sex on all my fertile days june 26-30 last AF was june 16 so question is it possible to start having symptoms 6-9 dpo?? only things thats really diff. is my breasts were extremely sensitive n sore... nipples too. never experience this before period so any infos great. a few days after soreness eased up 9dpo i spotted once then nothing til the next afternoon i had light flow no cramps or clot by 3am it stopped. next day only spot when i wiped. i was due for per the 13 of july no sign of it at all. is this normal? im always reg w/ 28-30 day cycle for 6 yrs now no stress or lifestyle changes....any insight????

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Subject: Trying to get pregnant


Author:
Victoria (joyful)
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Date Posted: 00:35:44 07/09/08 Wed

Me and my fiancee is trying to have a baby and the family is waiting for us to have a baby. We have been having sex for the past month without protection and he doesnt pull out and sometimes he stays in me afterwards, lately ive been nausea with cramps and have to pee alot like three times a night, my nipples hurt. I cant find a free clinic in galveston tx. could i be pregnant and if not what can i do to get pregnant and how can we have a girl?

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Subject: Definitely unplanned


Author:
Leslie
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Date Posted: 12:14:52 06/14/08 Sat

Hi. My boyfriend and I have been on and off for 2 years. And I mean really off with him seeing other women and I've seen other men. We just recently decided to try to make it work. The reason for us breaking up is that his parents do not approve of our relationship and he doesn't know how to cut them out of his life but with his recent decision he states that this time it's going to be different. I am 29 and was married very early. I had 2 abortions then and later on widowed. I don't regret my choice. I just got liposculputure last oct. 2007 and I work in dance so I need my body. Regardless of if he stays or not should I even consider having this child?

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Subject: How do I know if my gf is preg?


Author:
Ernest (wondering)
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Date Posted: 23:23:21 05/25/08 Sun

hello, my gf is 13 days late in her period and she wa ssupposed get her period on may 11th but now it is may 24th, and she took the preg test and it came out blank which seems strange, wha should she do/ does this mean she is preg?

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Subject: Am I pregnant?


Author:
Marisol (Anxious)
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Date Posted: 00:30:59 04/19/08 Sat

Im 19, Married, and my hubby wants a baby. I love kids and would have one too. Ive heard, and so it says on the box, that a pregnancy test is not 100% accurate but i wanted to know exaclt what the symptoms were? ive read one of your answers, about the sore breast and nipples and light bleeding or something after 6-12days of conception.......did i write that correctly? My boobs are sore, especially the nipples, my hubby says they're growing and ive kinda noticed, i pee somewhat mnore thatn i usually do and cant really hold it like i used to, im late on my period but when i took the test it said negative. what other things would i be able to tell if i am or not. and is the test always right?

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Subject: Can I be pregnant? please help...


Author:
Desirae
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Date Posted: 13:57:12 04/18/08 Fri

Well im 7 weeks late on my period and I have some pregnancy symptoms like tender nipples,bumps around my areola(montgomery bumps) fatigue, nausea but dnt throw up, headaches and frequent urination. But I've took lots of home pregnancy tst and there negative I dnt knw wat to do im real confused. If some1 can please give me some suggestions...thanks.

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Subject: Could I be pregnant???


Author:
Nina (Confused??)
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Date Posted: 17:37:46 04/12/08 Sat

Hi i am 22yrs old and my bf and i had sex with a condom 5wks ago but when we stopeed having sex the condom was on his leg so i dont know if it came off during or after we were done having sex anyways, I have been peeing every 10 15 mins or so and feeling lightheaded and my stomach is tightening a lil bit i took a test last week but it was negetaive i have been having cramps like im about to start but nothing happens. could i be pregnant??? Ihave also been more tired latley for no reason

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Subject: My pregnancy


Author:
Cynthia (excited!)
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Date Posted: 00:09:24 01/23/08 Wed

I am 16 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been togather for almost 3 months we had sex on our first month togather now i am almost 3 months pregnant i dont know what to do either abort or have 2 kids when i have nowhere to go.My boyfriend doesnt work and i only work for a few hours implanning to abort but not tellmy boyfriend but i dont know ifthats right what should i do??

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Subject: Not sure what to think-or what my body is doing?!


Author:
Nichole (confused!)
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Date Posted: 21:21:42 03/31/08 Mon

Hi...
I am a 26y/o mother of a 3 and 1/2 year old. His father and I recently split up- which is a good thing. However, we were still having intercourse up until things were broken off. And to make matters worse, I had my LMP January 15. I am nauseous to the extreme (it has been all day for the past 4 days, now) but had been sporadic now for about a week and a half. My breasts are slightly tender....I feel somewhat moody (ok, ok- I guess If you want to say absolutely hormonal that will work too- from crying to angry to sad to mad to numb to happy) and I have not seen ANY sign of my period. Nothing. Sometime in Feb, I did see some type of reddish discharge--not completely bloody, persay, but as if I had ovulated or something had implanted, almost, and it discharged a little out. But that is about it. My cycle has always been a little screwy, but not this screwy. The breakup wasn't stressing or emotional---I have been generally happy. I honestly wasnt worrying until these symptoms started appearing. I have a doctor's appt for friday- but the worst part is...I am getting a negative HPT. What is going on??? With my first son, i took 4 HPT and a urine test at the MD's office, and those were all negative, and then 5 minutes later after they did the blood test, that came out positive. So, what is your opinion on all of this? Do you think that if I was truly pg at this point that it would still not be showing on a HPT? I'm so confused, I really dont know what to think. Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Subject: Top Ten Signs You may be Pregnant


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 08:51:06 03/28/08 Fri

• 10. Tender, swollen breasts
• 9. Fatigue
• 8. Implantation bleeding
• 7. Nausea or vomiting
• 6. Increased sensitivity to odors
• 5. Abdominal bloating
• 4. Frequent urination
• 3. A missed period
• 2. Your basal body temperature stays high
• 1. The proof: A positive pregnancy test

If you think you may be pregnant, you can get a FREE and CONFIDENTIAL test at a pregnancy center - Look one up near you at:

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Subject: Sex


Author:
Christine (sad)
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Date Posted: 22:40:40 03/25/08 Tue

My boyfriend nuts in me when i have my period...am i pregnant? I'm only 15

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Subject: siegelinde


Author:
siegelinde
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Date Posted: 11:44:48 03/25/08 Tue

I had my period a couple of days early, and when i started it was very light, when it has always been heavy for the first couple of days. I want to know if i could be pregnant?

thanks

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Subject: PREGNANCY


Author:
Nicole (OK)
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Date Posted: 23:39:56 03/23/08 Sun

Hi I had my tubes tide it will be 5 years Dec/5/08 I was supposed to get my period back around the first of the month it never came I have been felling like birds and stuff moving around in there I have been having unprotected sex with my man that I have been with over a year we live together I feel like I could be preagnant i just dont no

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Subject: pregnant or not


Author:
Taylor (confused)
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Date Posted: 10:20:06 03/19/08 Wed

I am 20yrs old. I had sex a day before my period, my boyfried did cum inside me. Its a month later and Im pregnant, is it possible that it could have gotten pregnant that day?

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Subject: pREGNANT?


Author:
CATHY
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Date Posted: 11:26:11 03/18/08 Tue

i SUPPOSEDLY OVULATED BETWEEN THE 4TH AND 9TH OF MARCH. I HAD SEX WITH MY HUSBAND ON THE 10TH. SINCE THE 14TH I'VE BEEN CRAMPING LIKE I COULD START MY PERIOD. I'M NOT DUE TO START UNTIL THE 22ND. IS THERE A CHANCE I COULD BE PREGNANT?

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Subject: Is it possible to discover pregnant within a month after period?


Author:
Iza
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Date Posted: 00:13:08 03/08/08 Sat

I had my period on 2nd Feb 2008. It ended on the 6th/7th Feb 2008. I got married on 8th Febuary 2008. Thats the 1st time I had sex(in life) and it goes on daily. I then went to the doctors for a check on 4th March 2008. And the doctor said my pregnancy test showed that I am pregnant. No doubt I am pregnant as said by the doctor but The question is, it is possible to be positive and detected by the test in such a short period of time? Please reply. Thanks

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Subject: Help


Author:
TaSherra (Sad)
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Date Posted: 17:05:11 03/13/08 Thu

I have a problem. I wanted to know if someone can get pregnant by pre nut being on the wrong side of the condom but then the boy take the condom off and put the condom on the right the way? and then start having intercourse for a few minutes.

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Subject: Trying to get pregnant


Author:
Vicki (sad)
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Date Posted: 01:26:28 03/14/08 Fri

Me and my boyfriend of two years have been trying to have a baby but have no luck, my boyfriend smoke weed heavily and i dont smoke at all. we have sex almost everyday at least 3 times a day and everytime he cums inside of me but im still not getting pregnant. sometimes after we have sex i feel like i have to throw up, my stomach feels full and i've been having sharp pain in my lower stomach around my belly button. can i still get pregnant while my boyfriend smoke weed? if he stop which i doubt how long do i need to wait after he stops??? why do i feel like i have to throw up after he cums in me?? why do i get headaches the day after he cums in me?? is my body trying to get pregnant?? please someone help

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Subject: help me


Author:
jane (sad)
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Date Posted: 09:27:49 03/02/08 Sun

i had sex with my boyfriend on the second day of my period.. whats the percentage that i would get pregnant? he cummed inside me. i actually have regular periods.. when does my ovaluation period start anyway? but please help me.. will i most likely get pregnant???

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Subject: hi


Author:
kerry
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Date Posted: 16:07:00 02/27/08 Wed

any1 who can help i had my period on the 15 feb which was alot longer than normal then 9 days later i ad a light bleed 4 about 3 days and we was having sex wiv out useing anything do u think im preganat

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Subject: Whats the chances


Author:
Emma (worried)
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Date Posted: 22:49:48 02/23/08 Sat

Hi, ive bin going out with this guy for a month now and we have sex nearly every other day. 2weeks after we started going out i came on. and then when i came off we started having sex again, we dont use protection and we have sex more than once everytime we see eachother. he really wants a baby and i thought i did but im not too sure now, im due on by the end of this month, or the start of the next.
Just yesturday ive bin craving sweet things. i hate chocolate! and i went through about 6 different bars of chocolate in the space of 2 mins. from the time i woke up i started eating and i didnt stop till i went to sleep, and i cant seem to get full its really werid!, plus my nipples are realy sore! hpefully its just pms but
is there a chance im pregnant?

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Subject: Concerns


Author:
Unique (worry)
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Date Posted: 02:26:17 02/15/08 Fri

hi im 18 yrs . old and am about to graduate from high school. me and my ? had unprotected sex and i checkd my ovulation calendar and it said my most fertile days were the 9th-13th. i jus wanted to see if i was fertile when i had sex on the 9th cuz i usually use it for my periods .i know they are not 100% accurate but nearly 3 years ago i got prego from pre-cum and i had an abortion. i was doing so good til now. please dont judge ,i just need advice . the calendars said i was fertile and i had sex on my first fertile day which was the 9th , i wish i could just know. i have been down this road before.this is not the first time obviously . Any advice is greatly appreciated, just not judgements.by the way it was the withdraw .but i got prego from precum in the past. could it be possible ?

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Subject: What happens if the guy is doing drugs?


Author:
Chrisy (sad)
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Date Posted: 01:09:03 02/21/08 Thu

I recently got pregnat, and was using drugs. I know that you are not suppose to use drugs while you are pregnat so i stopped. But what if the guy who got you pregnat heavily used drugs. Will this effect the sperm that came from him?

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Subject: Am I?


Author:
SusieQ
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Date Posted: 14:09:16 02/20/08 Wed


I stopped seasonique after my placebo pills, this was back in the beginning of january. I did not start a new bc. I was due for my period on Feb. 12th and I STILL have not started. I took a pregnancy test 3 days ago and it was negative.... Any ideas as to what could be going on? I was only on seasonique for 6 months, and did not just stop taking them in the middle of the pack, so I wouldn't think that it would still have my cycle mixed up... Was it too early to take a pregnancy test? My longtime boyfriend & I did have unprotected sex many times during that month.. We aren't trying or not trying to get pregnant.. Whatever happens, happens.. But why am I so late with a negative test??

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Subject: Women Who Have Abortions Experience Post-Traumatic Stress


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 06:59:52 02/14/08 Thu


Study Finds Women Who Have Abortions Experience Post-Traumatic Stress

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by Steven Ertelt
LifeNews.com Editor
February 13, 2008




Washington, DC (LifeNews.com) -- A new study published in the journal BMC Psychiatry finds that women who have abortions typically experience high levels of post-traumatic stress disorder. The findings mirror other research reports showing women are more likely to suffer mental health issues following abortions compared with keeping the baby.

The study appeared in the July 2007 issue of the professional psychological publication but it only coming to light now.

The research involved 155 women from South Africa who had abortions and were evaluated one month and three months afterwards.

Approximately 20 percent of the women had post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms just one month later. The results led the authors to note that "high rates of PTSD characterize women who have undergone voluntary pregnancy termination.

Looking at the women three months after the abortion, the number of women experiencing the PTSD symptoms increased 61 percent.

Dr. David Reardon, the head of the Elliot Institute and a post-abortion research who has been involved in more than a dozen studies documenting the psychological impact of abortion on women, notified LifeNews.com of the new study.

"The abortion industry should not be subjecting women to a procedure that is likely to increase or cause symptoms of post-traumatic stress or other mental health problems," he said.

"Furthermore, the evidence shows that many of these abortions are unwanted and the result of pressure or coercion from others," Reardon added. "The industry should be held liable for putting women at risk and performing unwanted and dangerous abortions."

Reardon said the researchers also examined the effect of levels of pain and post-abortion psychological outcomes.

The study found women who had received a local anesthetic versus those who had received IV sedation had higher levels of pain and were more likely to experience PTSD symptoms in the short-term but there was no long-term difference.

According to Reardon that means the abortion itself is more likely to cause the PTSD issues rather than the kind of pain management given during the abortion process.

This isn't the first study to show a link between abortion and post-traumatic stress disorders.

In a 2004 study published in the Medical Science Monitor, 65 percent of American women reported PTSD symptoms after an abortion and just over 14 percent reported all the symptoms necessary for a clinical diagnosis of PTSD.

Related web sites:
Elliot Institute - http://www.AfterAbortion.Info




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Subject: is it to early to tell pregnancy?


Author:
Melanie (happy)
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Date Posted: 01:36:26 02/12/08 Tue

My husband and I last had unprotected sex and he injaculated in me 7 days ago..Three days later my brests wore tender and sore and they still are... My period is very irregular and sometime I may have two in one month or maybe none for several, so i cant really depend on my period to tell.. I was wondering if I got a prenancy test, would it be too soon?or could it be someething else making my breasts tender and sore??



thankx
melanie

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Subject: pregnancy concerns


Author:
Tayiona
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Date Posted: 23:49:04 02/04/08 Mon

Me and my boyfriend had protected sex, and the next day i discovered something odd when i got done peeing,it was his condom that i pulled out of my vagina. It was inside of me upside down,am i pregnant?

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Subject: I can't make up my mind


Author:
Me
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Date Posted: 11:50:17 01/28/08 Mon

I really need help or advice. I'm 15 weeks pregnant with twins. I have a 7yr as well. I got pregnant last spring and found out it was twins early. Due to stress, complications and non support from the dad I had an abortion. I didn't even believe in abortions before that. Of course I was upset and depressed afterwards thinking I was less than human and I swore off sex. I went 8 months without sex and gave in (different guy). The 2nd time I gave in I got pregnant. I thought he had on protection and find out later he didn't. When I found out, I knew I was having the child because I didn't want to keep doing the alternative. I found out they are twins as well and was very excited told the whole family and my boss. Recntly I started getting scared again. One week I'm picking out names and very excited and the next week I'm terrified. I didn't start feeling this way until I hit about 12 weeks. I told my 7yr old about the twins and he is very excited, at the time I didn't intend on my feelings changing. I really don't know what to do. My stress is because of finances and support from the father who doesn't even call me anymore. My 7yr old's dad gets him 3 days a week and is very supportive. I don't know what a full time parent even feels like. I'm really scared to be single with 3 kids and I can tell you if I was financial comfortable or I had more support from the dad, I wouldn't even consider an abortion. I don't regret the first abortion to this day, does that mean I can go through it again and what do I tell my 7yr old. Or is it being twins again so soon a sign that I'm suppose to have twins. My problem is I can't decide, the clock is ticking and I don't want to regret my decision either way. Sorry so long. any advice?

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Subject: 2 Kids ?


Author:
KAtie (Scared)
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Date Posted: 11:16:13 01/24/08 Thu

Hi im 16 yrs old and i think i may be pregnant.
me and my Boyfriend of a yr and a half started having protected sex a few months ago.
Im 10 days late on my period and im freaking out.
neither of us want an abortion but it looks liek there is no other way, he'll get kicke dout because he already has a son he is taking care of in his parents house and they dotn want him to have another child and ill be thrown ou tand disowned. ive tried many times to get a job bu tnoone will hir eme because im a minor. he is about the start college an dbegin a life. id love to have a baby with him but i just know it isnt the right time for etiher of us, we cant afford it and we will have nowhere to go ...
HELP

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Subject: I'M SOOO SCARED


Author:
Kai (Distraught)
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Date Posted: 00:26:32 01/16/08 Wed

ok im 19 i graduated high school already im in my second semester of college,i have a good job grossing about 450 a month,im 3months pregnant im living on my fathers couch ,i dont believe in abortion so im going to have them its twins .the father and me have been together for about a year but this pregnancy wasnt planned , i always wanted to be married ,live in a house and be together 4 life ,but i dont know what im going to do.im soo scared and instead of him and me coming together we are pulling apart im just nervous i wont be able to fend for my children what do i do?????

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Subject: No Way Out!


Author:
Lost Unicorn
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Date Posted: 00:54:00 01/18/08 Fri

I am a 30yr old mother of 2 beautiful girls, ages 9yrs and 1yr. My oldest was from an 8 yr relationship that obviously did not work out and the baby is from a 5 yr relationship that has been rocky for a long, long time. I had an abortion a few years ago from the baby's father and it was one of the hardest things I think I have ever had to go through! I didn't learn. I got pregnant once again but this time I kept my baby because I made a promise to God I would never have another abortion again.

My baby is going to be 14 months old to be exact and just yesterday I found out I am once again pregnant! This man left me for 6 months when I was pregnant with my little one and that was extremely difficult, but I made it through. I had a very hard pregnancy with gestational diabetes, really bad sciatica on both sides, emotional and psychological stress and worry, finances were also a worry. I feel at this point so angry with myself that I could have allowed this to happen again, that I put myself in this situation with the feeling of NO WAY OUT!! I'm dreading the consequences of another abortion, but I just don't see any way possible for me to keep my baby. I have a job, but I don't make enough money and have been so worried about the financial burden of raising 2 children alone, not to mention having another child to support!!

I'm trying so hard not to bond with the life I have inside of me, I'm trying so hard to be cold and numb to the situation, but I must admit, I'm not doing a very good job. I made my appt. for the termination today and the lady I spoke with said there was a flag in the computer by my name because of the way I reacted to the last one and she warned me I cannot come there if I am going to react the same way. After I hung up the phone I just cried. I got so angry with myself and then with God. I was wrong for that, I know, I just couldn't help but to ask WHY??? Why did He allow me to put myself in this situation again, WHY? I guess I'll stop writing because this is starting to look more like a book rather than a post! Thanks for letting me vent! God Bless....

Lost Unicorn

PS.
It's so sad that everything revolves around money, the Almighty Dollar! If I had the financial resources that would make it possible, I wouldn't think twice about keeping my baby!! I made choices and I made mistakes in my life, so once again I am in this situation because I allowed it. Always remember, the choices we make today will affect us tomorrow!

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Subject: am i pregnant?


Author:
cfs
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Date Posted: 04:00:46 01/09/08 Wed

i am 32 days from my last cycle makin me 4 days late on my period, I always have regular periods I start on the right day n have a regular five day period. I am very tired have swollen breasts temperature keeps goin up i feel dizzy could i be pregnant? please reply asap. thnx x

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Subject: Could I be pregnant?


Author:
Ashley
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Date Posted: 09:33:07 12/28/07 Fri

Hi my name is ashley and i'm 18 me and my boyfriend had sex on Dec.9,2007 and about week later my peiord came on but after it went off i started to feel nausa and sick on the stomach and i have been sleeping alot i havent been on birthcontrol in a month so could i still be preganet?

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Subject: Scared


Author:
Eric
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Date Posted: 00:17:34 01/05/08 Sat

me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time a couple days ago. it was january second and she normally has her periods at the end of the month. afterwards she was saying how she had stomach pains and a headache. its only been a day and she has stomach pains that feel sharp. is this bad?

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Subject: Sex Before Marriage?


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 01:04:18 01/08/08 Tue

Here is an article I found on http://www.lovematters.com

Sex Before Marriage?
Consider the Consequences
IF YOU WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE, YOU CAN:

Know that a person likes you because of who you are and not because you will “go all the way”
Have self-respect and respect from others because of standing firm and accomplishing a goal
Know trust, honesty and patience
Experience peace of mind
Develop true intimacy
Have a clear conscience
Have healthy relationships
Discover the true meaning of love
Share a bond with your spouse that no one else has shared
Focus on communication skills and develop non-sexual relationships
Have a solid foundation as you enter marriage
Look forward to a very special honeymoon!
Adapted from Choices/Teen Awareness, Inc.
IF YOU DON’T WAIT, ARE YOU READY FOR:

EMOTIONAL HEARTACHES

Guilt
Regrets
Loss of self-respect
Depression
Suicidal thoughts
Ruined relationships
Anger
PREGNANCY
Immediate marriage
Adoption (to place your baby with a loving family)
Single parenthood
Abortion’s consequences
STDS AND OTHER HEALTH PROBLEMS
AIDS
Syphilis
Gonorrhea
Herpes
Chlamydia
Genital warts
Vaginal infections
Sterility risks
Cervical cancer
Breast cancer
(WARNING! Even if you use contraceptives, you’re still at risk for heartaches, pregnancy and STDs.)




“Living Together” Doesn’t Work
Research shows that marriages that started out as live-together unions have a 50 percent higher divorce rate.

Source: “The Role of Cohabitation in Declining Rates of Marriage,” Journal of Marriage and the Family, v53, 1991, pp. 913-927
Subject: Could I be pregnant?


Author:
BrittR
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Date Posted: 08:51:59 01/02/08 Wed

My husband and I had unprotected sex on Dec. 29, 2007. He doesn't know for sure if he came in me. He says he had signs like tingling but we kept going and he came when we got done (not in me).

I was wandering if I could be pregnant. My period is like clockwork on the 10th of every month. I was on Birth Control pill seasonale for about 9 months and stopped taking it about 3-4 months ago.

I am having breat soreness but that usually occurs about a week before my period. Since, my period is due on the 10 of Jan 2008, that might be a sign of my period fixing to come on.

Please let me know what you think.

We both want children but with me just being done with College and trying to find a job, this might be kinda hard to handle....but we will see!

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Subject: Unknown if pregnant. on pins and needles


Author:
Kim
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Date Posted: 23:45:39 12/24/07 Mon

My period came on between the 8 and the 9 of Dec. I had sex during the late hours of the 19 and early hours of the 20. Was I fertile at the time to have gotten pregnant. I dont know my exact ovulation date. Nevertheless, I have never missed a period. Every 28 Days, like clock work.

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Subject: Re: One Week After Conception Symptoms?


Author:
monica
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Date Posted: 21:30:50 12/18/07 Tue

i had my period nov. 24,2007 and it went off bout the 31st i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend the 1st of dec.2007. it is now dec. 18,2007 and i've been throwing up and my breast are really sore and i've been feelin pain in my lower back and both of my sides and its is very hard to sleep comfortably at night and i have been urinatin alot since then could i be pregnant?????

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Subject: Jaimie Lynn Spears - 16 & pregnant


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 08:15:23 12/19/07 Wed

"It was a shock for both of us, so unexpected," she said. "I was in complete and total shock and so was he."

Spears is 12 weeks along and initially kept the news to herself when she learned of the pregnancy from an at-home test and subsequent doctor visit, she told the celebrity magazine, which hits stands in New York on Wednesday and the rest of the country by Friday.

What message does she want to send to other teens about premarital sex?

******"I definitely don't think it's something you should do; it's better to wait," she told the magazine.*******

"But I can't be judgmental because it's a position I put myself in."

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By the time you're reading this from today's news, you are probably in the same spot - or worried that you are in the same spot - an unplanned pregnancy.

I found it interesting that her wise observation is to advise young ladies (and men) to abstain, to WAIT for sex.

If you end up not pregnant at this time, give some serious thought to being sexually active until you're married.

Kris
Subject: Top Ten Signs You are Pregnant


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 20:58:27 12/18/07 Tue

• 10. Tender, swollen breasts
• 9. Fatigue
• 8. Implantation bleeding
• 7. Nausea or vomiting
• 6. Increased sensitivity to odors
• 5. Abdominal bloating
• 4. Frequent urination
• 3. A missed period
• 2. Your basal body temperature stays high
• 1. The proof: A positive pregnancy test
Subject: could it happen?


Author:
ashlynn (confused)
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Date Posted: 14:35:20 12/18/07 Tue

ok so i started dating this guy and we have been having unprotected sex since we been together,BUT he DOES pull out, i have had friends tell me that pre cum is just as bad as the real thing, is this true??? whats my percent of gettin preg even if he does pull out?? we do it like almost every night but i just dont like condoms and aint sure how likely it is for me to become preg.please help me!

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Subject: I've been on ortho evra for 5 years and after i got my period i didn't put it back on and had sex


Author:
Janna (scared)
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Date Posted: 22:02:42 12/16/07 Sun

well... ive been on ortho evra for 5 years and i had my period but ive had morning sickness for like a month now b.c last month i had sex without it on and he didnt pull out. NOW i havent had it on for a week we had sex twice and he didnt pull out and i wonder if i am pregnate should i put my patch back on because i dont wanna kill the baby if i am PLEASE GET BACK TO ME AS SOON AS YOU CAN..

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