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Author: Salma
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Date Posted: 00:46:15 12/24/02 Tue
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Salaam alaikum
OK I have a bunch of questions as I am TOTALLY CONFUSED on how to do this whole marriage thing at all.
I'm adopted, so I understand that under Islamic law, I DON'T have a mahram. I've chosen to leave the whole subject of finding my biological family alone, I think there is a reason ALLAH chose things to be as they are. If I'm supposed to find out who they are, it will happen. If not, well, it won't matter WHAT I do or HOW MUCH money I spend, it's STILL not going to change Allah's will.....so there you go.
So first off, I know I'm supposed to have a guardian.
HOW do I choose one? As far as I know we don't have ONE recognized leader at our mosque, which I've read is the first option, so what do I do? Can I just choose someone who I trust? That's what I've done, but I want to know if I'm right or not.
And CAN I meet with the brother with his wife present since I don't have a mahram? We're obviously not alone if his wife's there but I've also heard that the wife isn't sufficient, it's got to be a mahram. Obviously, that's a problem too then since I don't have one.
And travel. As I said, I don't have a mahram. I also live in the MIDDLE OF NOWHERE. There are NO single brothers out here to marry, literally, I've checked. What do I do?
OK, I'll stop for now inshaAllah, I may find that some of my other questions are answered when someone responds to these.
Shukran
Salaam alaikum
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