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wrong choices

Author:
ashamed

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Date Posted: 17:49:05 05/21/02 Tue
Author Host/IP: NoHost/24.171.76.233

Assalaamu alaikum sister,
I'm a newly reverted muslim who is trying to correct the mistakes of my past, you know right some of the wrongs i've done. A wrong that has haunted me for the last 11yrs is the true parentage of my son. You see 11 years ago I dated and fornicated with this guy I'll call Jessie we had dated for 18mos. During this time the man who I thought was the love of my life (Pete)was incarcerated Pete got out and I decided to go back to him.This was mid June I had last fornicated with Jessie the beginning of June. Mid June I left Jessie for Pete and immediately fornicated with him, hence my problem. I later found out I was pregnant and was afraid to tell Jessie ther was a chance that my baby might be his so I let Pete think for sure my baby was his.I married Pete and never told him of this. I have since divorced him and told Jessie that my son is his(which I truely believe because of the resemblance). Jessie has since built a relationship with my son, my only guilty feelings was that Jessie didn't know. Pete never took the time with my son even when we were married so my son don't want to be bothered with him anyway. Now that I'm muslim again do I need to tell Pete this when this could dissrupt my family. I have not told my son he looks at Jessie as his godfather but my muslim friend said I have to tell him. I told Jessie if he wanted me to tell him he might be his father I would but he said that he don't want to hurt him. What should I do, I made this problem and I'm ready to take what ever action to right it.

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[> Subject: Re: wrong choices

Author:
Laila Nasheeba
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Date Posted: 05:27:01 05/22/02 Wed
Author Host/IP: dhcp024-210-245-129.woh.rr.com/24.210.245.129

As Salaamu Alaikoum,

Praise be to Allah.

Every child has a right to know and is supposed to know who his father is. This is a Law in Islam.

Since you do not know for sure who the father is, you should tell your son the possiblilty of whom his father may be and then you should have testing done to find out who his father is.

AND ALLAH KNOWS BEST

Laila Nasheeba