Date Posted:18:26:53 03/25/16 Fri Author: Katie (sounds familiar) Subject: Re: Husbands bisexual confession after 10 years In reply to:
Alison
's message, "Husbands bisexual confession after 10 years" on 16:18:18 03/25/16 Fri
Hi Alison, sorry you have a reason to be here. Checking in with this forum will help give you so much clarity, and it sounds to me like you already have a good head on your shoulders. I just wanted to say that my soon to be ex put me through a very similar hell, except he didn't even tell me he was bi, I found out on my own! He proposed an open marriage too, and I was so lost and sad that I actually considered it before realizing that was never and will never be something I could be happy in. He also lied like crazy, he would answer "no" to a question and then I would find out the truth later. Afterwards when I asked him why he lied he would say things like "he was doing it to save our marriage" and "he didn't want to hurt me". Its all just to save their own skins, you deserve the whole truth at this point but I doubt he'll give it to you. He's only thinking of himself, a lot of these partners have narcissistic qualities. He won't risk being "outed" and have his family broken up by telling you everything at this point, and you sound like your gut is telling you there's more. Listen to it! It was absolutely dishonest to not tell you about this before marriage. This info you have may just be the tip of the iceburg for you, as mine was. I ended up finding out that mine cheated on me with a man, has a porn addiction, lied repeatedly, had 6 years of M4M Craigslist interactions in his email, posted pics of me on a porn site without my knowledge, and the list goes on and on. None of these things I ever thought he'd be capable of. I highly recommend going to one of the support group meetings, and individual counseling. Its good that you have time away to think about things. If you have someone who you can confide in and you think they will support you no matter what you decide, do it! You'll feel so much better. And make sure to protect yourself since you can no longer trust him. Best of luck, and stay strong!
