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Date Posted: 12:58:39 08/28/16 Sun
Author: DG
Subject: Help! Is my gut telling me something

I'm looking for an external perspective on my current situation.
I got married four months ago and since then so many red flags have popped up which are screaming that my husband could be gay.
I can enlist some of the prominent signs:
-he always approaches me from the back for sex
-not comfortable with missionary position and when I specifically told him I don't feel satisfied, he told me there are more chances of me getting pregnant with that position even though he desperately wants me to get pregnant
-he tells me repeatedly that it takes up to 3 days for a man to regain his strength to be able to have sex again
-but at the same time he always initiates sex and often goes down on me with the expectation that I would do the same

-tries to have anal sex and prefers it over vaginal
-pretends as if he has difficulty finding the right entrance (I was a virgin before I got married and still can tell that he's doing it wrong)
-tells me he just wants to 'rest' his penis in between my butt cheeks but it usually leads to sex
-is unable to maintain erection and has to run himself to get an erection...when I ask why he can't maintain it, he says he doesn't know why
-I found Viagra in his private stash
-he has bouts of rage quite often and finds excuses to fight with me
-often sleeps outside the bedroom after a fight
-is obsessed with getting me pregnant and when I got my period one month after my wedding he was disappointed and said that maybe he lacks the ability to have a child (often talks about his apprehension of not being able to get me pregnant)
-is a textbook narcissist and believes he's a god of some sort
-I found a small packet of lube which he claimed he had bought 5 years ago to masturbate. When I asked why he was still carrying it he said he wanted to give it to his friends because he didn't need it
-is uncomfortable with French kissing using tongue and doesn't open his mouth
Don't know what to think? Can anybody with a similar experience shed some light?

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Re: Help! Is my gut telling me something -- Chris, 16:47:40 09/09/16 Fri
Re: Help! Is my gut telling me something -- Anne (Run), 15:46:22 09/16/16 Fri
- Re: Help! Is my gut telling me something -- Betsy, 09:49:03 10/27/16 Thu
  - Re: Help! Is my gut telling me something -- Kate, 02:13:22 11/16/16 Wed
Re: Help! Is my gut telling me something -- Tara (From way back), 20:07:55 01/02/17 Mon