Date Posted:14:17:52 05/20/16 Fri Author: WendiT Subject: Re: Blaming and shaming In reply to:
Lucy
's message, "Re: Blaming and shaming" on 20:02:27 05/19/16 Thu
Yes, they do trigger and/or provoke anxiety. I certainly did not think that he was causing it, but now away from him I don't have the anxiety, period. The anxiety came on so slowly I think I have to harken back to Steve's "frog in boiling water analogy".
During the separation and divorce process when his head games turned to "within the limits of legal stalking" my anxiety turned physical with shaking when I felt threatened.
And yes, he convinced his family, my family and most of our friends and acquaintances that is was all me. He even convinced one of my lifelong BFF's that I had suffered from long standing depression and postpartum depression too. Uh, I was puzzled by her insistence that I had suffered from both, I had to double check myself. Now away from him for many years it is crystal clear that the only thing that was depressing and anxiety provoking was living with a Narcissistic "GID" Husband for 20 years.
Set boundaries, set yourself free, go no contact, and don't look in the rearview mirror. No-one deserves to be treated like this. Its just BS.
Oh, and I have not had any contact with him in years. He is remarried and living a totally new life and he STILL puts me down and bad mouthes me. Yawn.
