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Date Posted: 00:22:25 10/24/03 Fri
Author: Chel
Subject: Thanks Kyser
In reply to: kyser 's message, "thats bs" on 14:56:25 10/23/03 Thu

You are fantastic, wish I had more people around you like me. Those links would be great, send them to my email if you still have it.

Blade I appreciate your opinion, but at the age of 18 you still have a hell of a lot of living in the real world to get through. I understand where you are coming from but you don't really understand the situation or how it feels to be in my shoes. So by that you really can't judge me or my situation at all.

My father thinks exactly like you do, he has that whole bullshit masculine view of the world happening, that a woman should just roll over and put up with whatever gets dished out to her. All I can say is that men like that are so threatened by women. I cannot believe the amount of support there is out there for women in my situation from other women, its amazing. The amount of power that women hold is incredible, that is what men fear more than anything. They can fear it all they like but it is there, it is happening and there is nothing that they can do about it. They are loosing control and that scares the shit out of them. That is why men will try to use a woman's emotions and mental state from years of abuse against them, as a tool to try to regain some of that control. The really sad thing is that it doesn't need to be the bull shit power play that it has become. No wonder more older women are turning towards lesbian relationships!!!!!!!

Kyser, the situation here is the same as there. A friend of mine sustained years of physical and emotional abuse, her husband put her in the hospital and she finally left him. He stalked and harrassed her to the point she couldn't stand it anymore and tried to take her own life. She still won (and to this day) has full custody of their son and there is no way in hell he will ever get it. So who is worse, the person driven to attempting to take their own life, or the abuser who drives them to it? Who is to say that they are fit parents? If a person can abuse and neglect the person whom they are supposed to love more than anyone else in the world, what kind of parent does that make them? Do they show their love and respect with their fists, by emotionally and psychologically doing them harm, what kind of person does that? You cannot tell me that they are the more fit parent than one who has always been there for their kids, who will always put the kids first, who is always thinks of the well being of the children, who loves them above and beyond anything else and would never ever do anything to harm them, even if that person is pushed to the point that they can't take it anymore. Having any kind of mental illness does not in anyway affect one's ability to be a good parent, anymore than the shark bite to Blade's leg does. The law in this country recognises that and will look down upon the person who puts another in the situation that they will feel that suicide is the only way out.

To all of you who have sent me your kind thoughts, love and prayers, you don't know how much it has meant to me. Without people like you getting through this would have been so much harder. And a final word to all those who don't, you are the roaches that I step on as I get on with my life.

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