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Subject: sad and confused


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joy
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Date Posted: 21:46:59 12/04/08 Thu

I am 41 years old, in my last year of college, have two beautiful girls and last week I had an abortion. I felt my only choice was to have one. I had spoke with the guy who I was pregnant from and he wasnt ready to have a child, just bought a home, and so on. He couldnt help financially. I wasnt looking for that at all, just felt it was right I told him.
I cry everyday, wondering if I made the right decision. I am such a strong person and just felt with everything going on in my life, my oldest daughter off to college next fall, me finishing my bachelors degree next fall, struggling financially right now, that I couldnt bring a baby into this world. I think to myself was I wrong??
Yesterday I took my oldest to the gyno. for her to talk bout getting birth control and there were two women in the waiting room preg. This just killed me, I just wanted to cry, thinking that would have been me in a few months.
No one knows that I got an abortion except the father, I felt I couldnt tell anyone, feeling they would of talked me out of my decision but know I feel I should have talked to my close friends. Not sure that would have made it easier.
I feel lost, and dont know what to do with how I am feeling

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Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 14:00:40 12/07/08 Sun

Dear Joy,

I am so sorry for your loss. You say you're not sure how to do with how you're feeling. The best thing is to work through your thoughts and emotions in a healthy way. Some people find journaling to be a good way to deal with emotions - I would recommend that you find a support group to help you through that or another avenue you find helpful.

Here is a link to a site you can find a center near you that will hopefully offer or know of where you can find a support group for post-abortion counseling :

http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

They are caring and confidential. It can be easy to underestimate the impact of an abortion. If you read through any of the posts here, you will see you are not alone.

Please don't let this go - you need to heal.

Hugs,
Kris

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