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Date Posted: 05:58:52 12/17/08 Wed
I'm glad you came.
I am curious as to why adoption isn't an option. If you don't want it, why would you be unable to choose adoption? Is it because you know you'll change your mind about wanting your baby?
Your heart is begging you not to have an abortion. Abortions are dangerous, too, and could kill you or severely disable you. And if you hate yourself now, I can't think how you will feel afterward.
I know a woman whom I met several years ago, on the internet. She felt exactly the same way as you. She never wanted to be a mother. On top of that, she had terrible, horrible morning sickness. We tried to warn her, but she was sure she wanted an abortion, so she went ahead and had one. Afterwards, she had horrendous emotional problems. She became suicidal several times. The first time, another woman and I stayed up all night sending her messages so she wouldn't do it. She and I have kept in touch. Once, a few months ago, she said, a woman at work thought she was pregnant and she would have an abortion. My friend wrote me and said, "PLEASE talk her out of it! My abortion ruined my life!" After all these years, she is only starting to put her life back together. I have another friend who had an abortion 7 years ago. She also had a similar view to yours. She even invited me to participate in a group called abortion celebration. She struggled with it some, but seemed to be OK. After 7 years, she said she was finally at peace with herself. And not long after, something apparently insignificant happened to her (I don't remember what) and she totally fell to pieces! I am trying to help her get back to a place where she is at peace with herself, but it's not easy.
If you read the messages here, you will see that a lot of women are really suffering emotionally. I am aware that in the first year after abortion, a woman is about 3 1/2 times as likely to die a violent death than if she went ahead and had the baby. This was demonstrated by a huge study in Finland. And the risk of suicide is also much greater, and it lasts for about 8 years. And a woman is likely to turn to drink or drugs, or to become careless with her life.
There are better answers. Abortion is NOT an easy answer. There are no easy answers at this point. I think your heart and mind are warning you. Please listen. We can help you find a better answer, one you can live with. You don't have to raise your child if you don't want to. But abortion strikes deeply in our essence, and the consequences are significant. Please protect and take care of yourself! I will be praying for you.
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