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Subject: I Hate talking About This.

Author:
Kayla (confused)

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Date Posted: 01:24:50 09/27/08 Sat

I had an abortion on November 10, 2007. I was 17 years old. The guy I was with was going to prison for 5 - 10 years soon after I discovered I was pregnant. The baby was 7 weeks old when it was aborted. After the abortion I started hating my "then" boyfriend. I couldn't even stand the sight of him and honestly, I haven't seen or talked to him since he's gone to jail. I still hate him, which could be a part of me blaming him. I don't know. All I know is that the abortion was the worst physical and emotional pain I have ever felt.
To make things worse, I started dating someone a month later. I found out I was pregnant AGAIN on January 25, 2008. This time, I was willing to have the baby. The guy (who I am still with now :) ) was amazing and very supportive. By the time we had actually gotten excited about this child, I had a miscarraige - due to the scar tissue from my previous abortion only two months before. I wasn't trying to get pregnant, and I know I should have gotten myself on some kind of contraceptive. The only thing is that I could not get on the pill after my abortion because I was only 17, and I had not (and still haven't) told my parents about it. In Indiana, you must be 18 to purchase any kind of birth control pills. Plus. the guys is allergic to latex.
Anyways, if this is possible in any way, I felt worse with my miscarraige than I did my abortion. I love the man I am with now, and it hurt to see something we both wanted fall apart like that.

Adding on the story, now I am 18 years old and living near him. (At the time of the pregnancy/miscarraige we lived 1000 miles away from each other). I have been taking birth control since my miscarraige, but I just discovered today that I am pregnant... again.

The only thing I am truly scared of is it ended badly again.

Advice?

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[> Subject: Re: I Hate talking About This.

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Kris
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Date Posted: 11:36:57 09/29/08 Mon

Dear Kayla,

I hope you have stopped taking your b/c. You also need to see your Dr. asap. Start taking good prenatal vitamins, eat right, walk for some gentle exercise - basically, I'm saying, take good care of yourself. If you smoke, quit, if you drink, quit.

You have to think good thoughts and be good to yourself and your baby your carrying. That's the best advice I can offer you now.

There are things in your post that suggest you are suffering from post-abortion syndrome. At some point, you should look into counseling for that. There are Centers that offer that for free. This is a good link to information about that:

http://www.optionline.org/hadabortion.html

It's important to be healthy physically, mentally and spiritually. It takes work, but everything in life does.

Kris