Create a New Forum Admin Login Member Login Contribute to Voyager Search VoyForums Help Desk VoyForums Exchange VoyForums Directory/Categories VoyForums Homepage VoyForums News FAQ - Frequently Asked Questions

[ Show ]

Support VoyForums

[ Shrink ]

VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, [3], 4 ]

Subject: my story Author: KP [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 02:43:03 10/23/07 Tue I just wanted to post because I feel that every single person that posts stories is christian or religious and I am not. I just wanted other women like myself to have a story or just... anything to relate to. I'm 21 years old and I had my abortion in May, I was 6 weeks along. Honestly, I've never wanted a child and neither did my boyfriend of the time but once I found out I was pregnant, it was like everything was different for me. I wanted to keep the baby and my boyfriend didn't understand what had changed my mind. I had to go alone because he was ashamed of what happened. I still feel so angry at myself because while a part of me feels it was the best thing to do, part of me still feels like I just got the abortion because he wanted me to. That anger has ruined our friendship and we no longer speak. I have nightmares about me drowning my baby and they're almost more than I can take. I think of the "what if's" everyday and it just doesn't feel like it's getting any easier. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:

[> Subject: Re: my story Author: Kris [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08:58:10 10/26/07 Fri Dear KP, Thank you for posting. It is important that you voice your feelings and experience. I really appreciate the courage it took for you to do that. I want to encourage you to keep working on the emotions you are going through. It's really critical that you find healing in the loss of the friendship you speak of and the loss of the baby. There are other message boards you should surf around on: http://www.safehavenministries.com/ Please allow yourself to grieve, as that will be the road to recovery. I think our society sends a message that we are to be "stoic" in tough times, when sometimes that's really not the answer. Keep close to friends and family and find the support you need to heal. Kris