Re: I just cant go on -- Post Abortion Healing Support

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Subject: Re: I just cant go on

Author:
Kris

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Date Posted: 17:41:19 06/03/06 Sat
In reply to: Devin 's message, "I just cant go on" on 14:14:54 06/02/06 Fri

Dear Devin,

I'm glad you posted here - I want to tell you, you are NOT alone. If you read through the posts on this site, you will see how many other women are also hurting from the abortion they had. There are networks of women that have undergone abortions and they can help you deal with your grief. Please also visit:

www.safehavenministries.com

or

www.optionline.org

Both may offer post-abortion counseling (FREE) near you. Safe Haven has more message boards to discuss your feelings on as well.

You are grieving for your loss, and you need to do that in a healthy way. You may want to confide in a close/trusted friend or relative about the truth and have someone else to lend you some emotional support. I'm sure your b/f is also grieving and regretting things, and men have a much harder time (typically) than women when it comes to expressing emotions. It mostly shows up as withdrawl or anger.

You need to go on.....there is still a reason you are here and a purpose for your life.

Hang in there - and email me or post again.

Hugs, Kris

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[> Subject: Re: I just cant go on

Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 22:34:10 06/03/06 Sat

Devin,

I'm glad you came here asking for help. You need to find someone to talk to so they can help you through your feelings. Even if it's someone from this board, I encourage you to cry as you need to and eventually are able to forgive your boyfriend and also yourself.

I believe in a higher power of Jesus and he can help you through the forgiveness.

Your life will never be the same. But a lot of women who have gone through an abortion find comfort in counselling others who are either considering abortion or have had an abortion. You can understand how they feel more than I could.

Because you are suisidal you should call your health care provider. If you are not willing to call your healthcare provider please call the optionline.org people. They offer free advice and have resources in your area that can help. Their toll free number is 1-800-395-HELP(4357) If you would like to email them you can use this link: option line contact Their instant message information is on there too.

Your boyfriend does not sound like someone who is healthy for you to be around. It's possible that he is going through some feelings that he didn't expect after the abortion. It's also possible that you will never be able to be together because of the abortion. Most couples do break up after an abortion.

Devin, if you want someone there for you I would be willing to write to you through instant messenger or email. There are other women here I know who would be willing to do the same.

Hugs,

Heather
songofjesus@yahoo.com