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Subject: I'm going over the edge


Author:
Jennifer
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Date Posted: 15:05:54 07/21/06 Fri
 I am a mother of 2 young kids. I love them so much. But I am done having kids (or so I thought). My husband had a vasectomy that failed and now I am pregnant. I cannot handle another baby. Mentally I just cannot! But I am scared of abortion for many reasons. I am afraid of how much it will hurt (physically). I am afraid God won't forgive me. Because I am going into it KNOWING I will be asking forgiveness afterwards. Just doesn't seem right. I would not forgive me either. I also know my mind will be totured because of guilt. But I cannot handle another child. I just can't. I am so upset I feeling like vomiting. I can't eat, sleep, hardly even care for my kids!
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[> Subject: Re: I'm going over the edge


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 02:54:25 07/22/06 Sat
Dear Jennifer,
I'm approving your post here but I'm also going to post it over at the other board. http://www.voy.com/66018/
As you can see from the stories below, the majority of women DO regret their abortion. Please email me so we can talk more. Or another alternative is a yahoo group http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
please contact me.
Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl

[> Subject: Re: I'm going over the edge


Author:
Kris
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Date Posted: 17:31:08 07/22/06 Sat
Dear jennifer,

I can understand you're feeling overwhelmed at the moment. I had times like that myself with two little ones under the age of two (both in diapers). You need to find a network of support - seriously - get into a church - or call your friends and family and reach out. We all need a little help from our friends now and then.

An abortion is a permanent answer to a temporary problem. It will not help you in the long run - if you believe in God, (which you indicated) you need to pray to Him and understand He has BLESSED you with this child and wants you to have it. It is a GIFT from Him. He will give you the strength to see this through - God never puts more on you than you can handle - but if He does, then he will show you a way through it - without breaking His commandments.

Call a close friend and have them come over and spend time with you. Confess to your husband/boyfriend how yo're feeling about all this and then see a counselor or preacher if need be.

Email me directly if you want to.

Hopkinskc@aol.com

Most importantly, HANG IN THERE, you are not alone!

Hugs, Kris
[> Subject: Re: I'm going over the edge


Author:
Diane Cheryl
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Date Posted: 00:23:10 07/23/06 Sun
Hi Jennifer.. You've got several answers over on http://www.voy.com/66018/
hope we can help you.
write back.
[> Subject: Re: I'm going over the edge


Author:
Mya
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Date Posted: 15:08:47 07/23/06 Sun
Please think thru this decision very very carefully. It's not one that you can change. I understand completely how you are feeling, I was in the same situation. While there are days I'm comfortable with my decision, there are many many more that I wish I could take it back. The decision to have an abortion is a burdon you will carry in your hear and in your mind every step you take for the rest of your life. There will be very little comfort from it. A child on the other hand, while challenging (yes, some more than others and some days more than others) is still a much easier decision than abortion. I wish with every beat of my heart I could bring my child back. I know it was not what I wanted at the time, but I feel in the core of my being that keeping him would have been best for everyone - and now it's too late. A child can smile back at you, love you, and have a place in this world, an abortion cannot. Think very carefully, and most importantly - do not make any quick decisions.
[> Subject: Re: I'm going over the edge


Author:
Nora
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Date Posted: 22:48:27 07/24/06 Mon
I had an abortion when i was 17 and im now 22. Theres not one day that goes by where i wish that i never went through with it. Anything that I see that has anything to do with babies or abortion still makes me cry. I would definately suggest thinking about how it would affect you. Unlike you I dont have any other children and I do think that once I do have a child that a part of my heart will be filled in again. So it might not be as bad for you because you can just love the kids you already have a little extra but it is definately a big deal and I dont think that mentally I could survive ever having another one.
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