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Date Posted: 05:43:42 10/10/03 Fri
Author: Ellen *waving at everybody - long time no see!*
Subject: A Delicate Question

I just dropped by and found Viive's posting (hi there!!) and this reminded me of my own struggles in life. So, here's my question: those of you who have suffered much pain in some area of your life, no matter what - why do you think is it so difficult to let go? Why do parts of us literally CLING to pain? What is the gift presented to us by extreme pain? How do you personally deal with pain and avoid getting frustrated, helpless, into the victim mode and such?I've been dealing with this question for a long time now. What do you think? Sorry, this is quite short, but little Cora Lie is waking up and VERRA hungry *g*

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[> I went through a year of pain with some severe tendonitis & ended up having to have surgery finally. I guess I just got used to the pain after a while. It was kind of like going through the stages of losing someone whose died. I went through feeling sorry for myself (victim mode), then I got really angry - why is this happening to me and why won't it go away no matter what I try. Then I just got used to it and started using my other hand/arm for things. It tought me that I can adjust if I really want to. As to clinging to the pain. I believe there's something to that but I don't understand why some people do that and others just "deal" with it somehow and move on. Good question. You have an e-mail coming too - I have questions for you on the piece I'm working on for you! -- Lori, 21:42:10 10/12/03 Sun


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