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Date Posted: 02:53:50 05/06/01 Sun
Author: Silver
Subject: My thoughts --->
In reply to: j-skee 's message, "The thing is I don't know if she is this way with all guys are not. I don't have that much experience with her around other guys. The issue that I had more than anything wasnt the flirting it was cuddling up to him that bothered me more than anything. But your right that just might be the way that she is with guys. .......... (go inside for more)" on 23:53:52 05/05/01 Sat

Nothing like a guy to complicate your life, huh? You don't need that. I don't know anything about your roommate except for what you recently posted and from that, she sounds like a really bad flirt. And what's worse, she doesn't care that she's one.

I think you did the right thing writing her that letter. I prefer writing over words when confronting someone too so I totally understand that. What I don't understand is why she didn't talk to you about it when she got home. That says either:

1) It's such a trivial matter to her that it left her mind which means:
a. she does this all the time so she's immune to it
b. she doesn't care much about your feelings
c. she's doesn't want to lose the guy for vanity sake even though she said she wasn't interested but continues to attract his attention so she'll feel wanted

2) She's really uncomfortable with the subject of the letter and is afraid to talk to you because:
a) she knows she's wrong and feels bad
b) she knows she's wrong but can't change her habits
c) she's doesn't want to lose the guy for vanity sake even though she said she wasn't interested but continues to attract his attention so she'll feel wanted

I'm not sure about talking to the guy about it either. I have minimal, if not nonexistent, experience with this, but guys LIKE the attention of lots of girls. So it might make him uncomfortable to put him on the spot and ask him who he likes.

This sounds like really bad advice, but I think you should just wait a little more and see what happens. Time will reveal everything in due course. I know it's really hard considering you really like the guy. But see how your roommate changes around him the next few times you guys are together. See how he reacts around you. And dog gone it, if you like the guy then flirt with him too!! He's of legal age. Show him you're interested. Wouldn't go as far as cuddling...but that's just me because personally, I wouldn't be that touchy feely with a guy I'm not sure is interested back. Just do what you're comfortable with. :-)

You're strong, you're in control, your life is on track. Don't let a guy throw you off course. You're a beautiful, smart, sweet girl and if that guy can't see that, he doesn't deserve you. Okay? He's still 18...what does he know about stable relationships, anyways?!? ;-) Take care sweetie and keep us updated. Love ya,

Mary

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Gosh silver you are always there for a good laugh. (inside) -- j-skee, 08:34:20 05/06/01 Sun