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Date Posted: 12:00:53 06/06/06 Tue
Author: Liz
Author Host/IP: NoHost / 12.31.208.217
Subject: About Self Esteem

Read this and wanted to share:

Your Self-Esteem
Self-esteem has everything to do with how you feel about praise. Low self-esteem is characterized by an intense desire to be liked, coupled with feelings, deep down inside, that one is inadequate and not worth liking. People with low self-esteem may desperately yearn for praise, but when it comes, they feel uncomfortable with it, like an imposter. Their self-criticism overrides their ability to recognize their strengths and qualities and appreciate their talents and contributions.

If low self-esteem hampers your ability to enjoy praise, then your call to personal growth is to realize that you don't have to be perfect to be liked, admired, and deemed competent. Improve whatever you can about yourself and then like yourself in spite of what you cannot change. You are not defined solely by your shortcomings and mistakes. Consider the possibility that your life was meant to serve some meaningful purpose and that the universe at this moment would be incomplete without you. You have as much right to take up space on the planet as anyone else, and the very fact of your existence means you were meant to be here. You are entitled to be a friend to yourself.

Low self-esteem does no one any good. It robs people of the drive to succeed and to give their best. It is a barrier to excellence. People aren't born with high or low self-esteem. Self-esteem is a learned trait, acquired from life experiences. People with low self-esteem have interpreted some of their experiences to mean "I'm not good enough." Fortunately, low self-esteem can be unlearned, and negative beliefs about self-worth can be replaced by positive ones!

If you have low self-esteem, do something to boost your opinion and liking of yourself. Read inspirational and self-help books, get into counseling and confront your fears, and look in the mirror and say "I love you," hundreds of times until you mean it. Get out of negative relationships and surround yourself with happy, loving people who love themselves! Be kind and forgiving and loving to yourself at all times.

When you receive praise, focus on what you've done well. Refuse to criticize or belittle your efforts. Assume that you must be doing something competently. Really listen to the positive feedback and respect it. Appreciate the value of praise not only to yourself, but to those who express it. Let praise and gentle, positive feedback for improvement become a part of your own inner dialog.

Entire article here:

<a rel=nofollow target=_blank href="http://www.careerknowhow.com/improvement/praise.htm">http://www.careerknowhow.com/improvement/praise.htm</a>

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